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Let’s face it, we all have habits that others may quietly judge us for. Especially women. They have an eye for detail and often take note of things we may not even realize we’re doing.
In public, these unnoticed behaviors can paint a picture of who we are. And, ladies, well they’re always watching.
This isn’t to make you paranoid, but to help you understand better. It’s about showing you those small everyday actions that women are secretly judging you for.
So let me share with you the 10 things you’re doing in public that women are silently taking note of. Prepare to reconsider your public persona after this.
1) Talking loudly on your phone
In an era of constant digital connection, phone etiquette has become a major aspect of our public persona.
One of the things you may be doing without even realizing it is talking loudly on your phone in public spaces.
Women, with their keen attention to detail, often pick up on this behavior. They see it as a sign of disregard for others around you, a lack of self-awareness, and even a need to draw attention to oneself.
While you may think it’s harmless, or that you’re just naturally loud, it can leave an impression that you’re not respectful of shared spaces.
So next time you take a call in a public area, consider stepping to a quieter corner or lowering your voice. Trust me, the women around you will appreciate it.
2) Not making eye contact during conversation
I remember a time when I was at a social gathering. I was having a conversation with a woman when I noticed she seemed slightly uncomfortable. At first, I couldn’t figure out why.
Then it hit me – I wasn’t making enough eye contact. I was looking around the room, at my phone, anywhere but at her.
This seemingly minor detail can be a major turn-off. Women often interpret lack of eye contact as a sign of disinterest or even rudeness. It can even give the impression that you’re not confident or honest.
Ever since that day, I’ve made a conscious effort to maintain an appropriate amount of eye contact during conversations. And believe me, it makes a difference.
3) Manspreading on public transport
Manspreading, or the act of sitting with your legs widely apart, taking up more than one seat on public transport, is viewed unfavorably by many women. While you might argue it’s all about comfort, to others, it can seem inconsiderate.
Even in cities like Madrid, measures have been taken to discourage manspreading on public transport. They’ve even gone as far as to introduce signs on buses and metros, urging men to keep their legs together.
So next time you find yourself on a bus or a train, be mindful of the space you’re occupying. You might just earn yourself some silent nods of approval from the women around you.
4) Being rude to service staff
How you treat those serving you in a restaurant, a café, or any other public place says a lot about your character. Women often pay close attention to this.
If you’re rude or dismissive towards service staff, it can come across as a sign of arrogance or entitlement. Women may interpret this as an indication of how you treat people in general, especially those whom you perceive as ‘beneath’ you.
Being polite and respectful to everyone, regardless of their job or status, is a sign of humility and kindness. These traits are highly valued and do not go unnoticed. So remember, a small act of kindness can leave a lasting impression.
5) Dominating conversations
Everyone loves a good conversation, and an engaging chat can leave a great impression. However, there’s a fine line between being talkative and dominating a conversation.
If you’re the type to monopolize the discussion, cutting people off or not giving others a chance to speak, women might see this as a red flag. It could suggest that you’re not interested in what others have to say, or that you value your opinions more than theirs.
Remember, a conversation is a two-way street. It’s about listening just as much as it’s about talking. So next time you’re engaged in a discussion, make sure to give others their fair share of the spotlight.
6) Disrespecting personal boundaries
In a world that’s increasingly aware of the importance of personal space and boundaries, this couldn’t be more crucial.
Imagine this: you’re in a crowded place, and you see someone who seems uncomfortable with how close people are standing to her. You might think it’s just the way things are in a crowded area, but women highly value their personal space.
Disrespecting these boundaries, even unintentionally, can make women feel uncomfortable and disrespected. It’s not just about physical space, it extends to emotional boundaries too.
So, let’s be mindful of the space we occupy, both physically and emotionally. Let’s respect each other’s comfort zones. After all, isn’t that what being a gentleman is all about?
7) Not taking ‘no’ for an answer
I once asked a woman out, and she politely declined. I was disappointed, of course, but I respected her decision. However, I’ve seen some men in similar situations who persist, not taking ‘no’ for an answer.
This behavior can make women feel uncomfortable and disrespected. When a woman says ‘no’, whether it’s to a date, a drink, or anything else, it’s important to respect that response, even if it’s not the one you were hoping for.
Learning to accept rejection gracefully shows maturity and respect for others’ decisions. So next time you hear a ‘no’, take it in stride. You’ll be showing respect where it’s due.
8) Excessive grooming in public
You’d think that being well-groomed would always leave a good impression, right? Not necessarily.
While personal hygiene and grooming are essential, doing it excessively in public can be off-putting. Women often notice if you’re constantly checking your reflection, fixing your hair, or applying hand sanitizer every five minutes.
What it boils down to is the impression that you’re overly focused on your appearance or excessively worried about germs. It’s great to be clean and neat, but remember, there’s a time and place for everything.
So next time you’re in public, remember to balance grooming with simply being present in the moment.
9) Overuse of strong fragrances
Scents can be a powerful thing. They can evoke memories, create a mood, and say a lot about your personal style. But when it comes to cologne or aftershave, less is often more.
Women generally appreciate a man who smells good. However, dousing yourself in strong fragrances can be overwhelming and even off-putting. It gives the impression that you’re trying too hard or covering up something else.
So, next time you’re reaching for your favorite scent, remember that a little goes a long way. After all, subtlety is key when it comes to making a good impression.
10) Lack of empathy and understanding
In the grand scheme of things, the most significant behavior that women secretly judge you for is a lack of empathy.
Being dismissive of others’ feelings, showing indifference to those around you, or being unable to understand different perspectives can be incredibly off-putting.
Empathy is the cornerstone of any meaningful interaction. It shows that you’re not just focused on yourself, but you’re also willing and able to understand others.
So, whether it’s in public or private, strive to be empathetic. It’s the one thing that truly matters.
Final thoughts: It’s all about respect
Peeling back the layers of human behavior, at its core, what women are silently assessing in public spaces is a universal principle – respect.
Respect for personal space, respect for shared spaces, respect for the opinions and feelings of others, and respect for oneself. These are the invisible threads that weave together the fabric of our social interactions.
Consider the famous words of philosopher Immanuel Kant: “Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, never merely as a means to an end, but always at the same time as an end.”
Simply put, see and treat people as individuals worthy of dignity and consideration, not just as tools or stepping stones for your own interests.
So whether you’re on the subway, at a café, or strolling in a park, keep this principle in mind. It might just change the way women perceive you. And who knows? It might change the way you perceive yourself too.