12 Things That Make a Woman Lose Interest In A Man

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12 Things That Make a Woman Lose Interest In A Man

There are some men who just can’t seem to catch a break. You meet a girl that you are really into and who seems to feel the same about you.

You go on a few dates and everything seems to be going your way – and then the girl loses interest. Believe me, I know that feeling; it can be crushing.

What happened? If you’re a man who has found yourself in this situation before, you know it can be pretty frustrating. It doesn’t make sense!

After all, you’re a great guy with good intentions who would treat her well…right?

If you find that this tends to consistently happen, it helps to understand why they might be reacting the way they are.

Having been through this more than once, here are 12 things that make women lose interest in a man. Some of these may seem harsh but keep in mind you may not even know you are doing them or, the problem may be on her side.

01 You seem desperate

There is nothing attractive about a man who is desperate for a woman’s affection. When a woman senses that a man is so keen on her that he would do anything for the relationship to work out, it’s an instant turn-off.

Women want to be pursued, of course, but that doesn’t mean scaring them off with your desperation to be in a relationship with them!

If you’re a guy who finds himself falling for every woman who gives you the time of day, it could be because you’re too eager to be in a relationship.

Take it slow, let the relationship progress naturally, and don’t be too disappointed if it doesn’t work out. Desperation always makes things worse.

02 You don’t have similar interests

One of the first steps in any relationship is finding common ground.

If you’re dating someone and you can’t find any commonalities whatsoever, there’s a good chance the relationship is going nowhere.

Even if you’re head over heels for a woman, it doesn’t mean you have to have everything in common. But you should at least be able to find some common interests to start with before trying to move things forward.

03 You come on too strong

It’s great to be enthusiastic about a relationship, but there’s a difference between enthusiasm and coming on too strong.

If you’ve only just met a woman and you’re already talking about marriage and kids, or if you’re sending her overly sexual texts, you may be coming on too strong.

It’s okay to have strong feelings for a woman but let her get to know you as a person first before diving in head first.

Only then should you start talking about more serious topics like marriage and children. Otherwise, you’re just scaring her off.

04 You appear cocky

There’s a difference between confidence and cockiness, and many men don’t seem to understand that difference.

Being confident means being sure of your abilities and not letting anything get you down.

Being cocky means putting on an air of superiority, as though you know you’re better than everyone else.

If you find yourself dating a woman and you’re acting overly cocky—or she finds out you’re not as successful as you presented yourself to be—it’s going to scare her off.

And yes, there is a difference between being cocky and masculine. Find out how to be masculine in a relationship here.

Women want to date men who are confident, but not cocky. Let her see the real you, and don’t be afraid to admit when you’re in over your head.

05 You don’t seem serious about the relationship

This is almost the exact opposite of point number three.

Some men are serial daters who just can’t seem to settle down with one woman. If you’re one of those men, it doesn’t matter how charming or handsome you are— she will sense this and it’s unlikely that she is going to be interested in dating you.

You have to have some level of seriousness about dating a certain woman before you can begin a relationship with her.

If you seem as though you’re not serious about dating a woman, she’s not going to take the relationship seriously. If women see that you see dating as a casual activity, many are not going to want to be a part of it.

This is definitely one of the points that you may not be aware of. If you think this is possible, you might find it helpful to read our article on signs she thinks you’re not interested in her.

06 You are critical

It’s fine to call someone out if they’re not treating you with respect, but you shouldn’t be constantly criticizing everything about a person just because they don’t do things the way you would.

If you’re constantly criticizing every aspect of her life and her choices, a woman is going to lose interest fast.

Keep an open mind. You shouldn’t be constantly calling out your partner for every little thing that isn’t up to your standards.

07 You are inconsiderate

If you’re dating a woman and you’re constantly being inconsiderate of her feelings, she’s going to lose interest pretty quickly.

It should go without saying that you shouldn’t just be dating a woman to use her for sex. You should be interested in her as a person.

If you’re being inconsiderate—by not responding to her texts, forgetting things she says etc.—she’s not going to respect you.

Quite simply, if she respects you, she’s going to want to date you. If she doesn’t, she’s going to lose interest quickly.

08 You are dishonest

Dating is all about trust. Trust is the cornerstone of any good relationship.

You need to be able to trust that the person you’re dating is being honest with you. You don’t want to be dating someone who you can’t trust.

She may be able to ignore a few white lies, but when she discovers that you have been keeping secrets from her, she will likely lose interest.

Telling lies can make a man unattractive to a woman.

No relationship can survive without trust. Be a man of your word.

09 You Seem Incapable of Having a Meaningful Conversation

It’s important to have fun on the first couple of dates, but there comes a point where you need to transition from a casual relationship to a serious one.

If you can’t transition from fun dates to meaningful conversations, it’s a sign that you’re not ready to date someone seriously.

If a woman finds out that you’re not capable of having a serious conversation with her, she’s not going to be interested in dating you.

She wants a man she can talk to and lean on for support, not just a guy who can take her out to dinner and make her laugh once in a while.

10 You show up late to dates

Let’s say that you’re the most charming, attractive man in the world. If you show up late to every date, it won’t matter.

Being late is disrespectful, plain, and simple.

She might tell you she is busy, but clearly, she is not interested.

It shows that you don’t care about your date as much as you should. This is as true in business as it is in dating.

If you have a habit of tardiness, it needs to change.

11 She already has a boyfriend.

This one is pretty obvious and if you are unaware, you are not to blame.

If a woman is already dating someone, it doesn’t make sense for her to start dating someone else.

If you find yourself dating a woman who already has a boyfriend, it’s best to just walk away.

The only reason she’s dating both of you at the same time is that she’s not sure which relationship is going to work out.

This is not a situation you want to be in. Walk away before she breaks your heart.

12 Her friends don’t like you

Sadly a woman may lose interest in you because her friends don’t approve of you.

If her friends talk down about you – she’s more likely to lose interest.

Again, this is not your fault and often there is little that you can do. Do your best to make a good impression by being respectful, considerate, and well-groomed.

This is even truer if you date another woman that is best friends with one of her friends.

13 She doesn’t know what she wants

Sometimes a girl loses interest because she simply doesn’t know what she wants. The beginning of a relationship is exciting but some girls get bored quickly.

If you find yourself in a situation where a woman doesn’t know what she wants, it’s usually best to try and discuss things openly.

If that doesn’t yield anything, you have to be prepared to walk away.


To conclude, there are many reasons she might be losing interest. Some of them you can fix and some can’t.

As always, I hope you found this article helpful. I wrote this post inspired by my own experiences and by those of people close to me but I may have missed some points. If there are other reasons a woman might lose interest, we’d love to hear them in the comments.