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The truth is it’s hard to know what women want.
And most of us ladies expect guys to know what we want, without telling you.
Even we can admit it is a tricky situation. But today I help you out!
We’ll dive into the 13 things your girlfriend wants from you even if she’s not telling you.
Yep, that’s right. We’re about to spill the beans on what’s really going on inside her head.
But don’t worry; it’s not that complicated.
These things are easy to do (at least we think so!) and the kinds of things that can make your relationship better for both of you.
1. Communicate with her
Most guys seem to desire to be the strong, silent type
But she needs you to talk to her.
This can start really simple. Talk to her about your day, your thoughts, ideas, and opinions. She just wants to know what is going on with you.
And if you are arguing, let her know why you are mad. The most frustrating thing you can do is bottle it up and shut her out.
If both of you learn to communicate, you can get through anything.
At work, my colleague Sarah has a fantastic relationship with her husband, Tom.
Why?
They make it a point to have dinner together every night and catch up on their day. Tom listens to her stories about the office, and Sarah hears about his day in construction. They say it’s their way of staying connected, even with busy schedules.
Simple yet effective.
2. Organize dates
Yes, when the honeymoon period is over, you still have to make the effort.
And it doesn’t matter if she is better at organizing things – do it anyway.
It doesn’t need to be anything too fancy; it is the thought and effort that counts here. Take her for lunch, book dinner at a new restaurant or plan a day out.
My cousin Lisa and her boyfriend, Mike, have this tradition of planning surprise date nights. One evening, Mike set up a movie night under the stars in their backyard, complete with a projector and all her favourite snacks. Lisa couldn’t stop gushing about how special it made her feel.
It’s the small things.
3. Show just a tiny bit of jealousy
A hint of “I like having you to myself” can be charming.
Just don’t let it get out of hand.
My sister once told me about her boyfriend’s reaction to her talking about a guy from work. He playfully teased her when she mentioned him, just a little bit of “Hey, so who’s this guy?”
She found it cute and reassuring that he cared about her.
The right amount of jealousy shows that you care and you recognize that you’ve got a good thing. Too much, and you can come across as controlling and lacking confidence.
But trust us when we tell you, she secretly wants you to show just a tiny bit of jealousy from time to time.
4. Give her compliments
This one couldn’t be easier, but so many men seem to overlook it.
Let your significant other know you appreciate her.
A simple and genuine compliment goes a long way.
Something like “You look nice” or “You’re really clever.” An easy way to do this is if you catch yourself thinking it, then just say it.
My friend, Grace and I were going on a girls night out. Her boyfriend, Brian drove us to the bar. He didn’t her on how she looked.
When we got out of the car she told me how disappointed she was. As we walked inside her phone buzzed with a text from Brian saying “You look stunning tonight”. She had a smile on her face the rest of the night.
Everyone knows if you have to ask for a compliment, it doesn’t count. So no matter how much your girl secretly wants this from you, she won’t tell you.
5. Make the decision
Girls always get a bad rap for saying “I don’t mind” when you ask them what movie they want to watch or where they want to eat.
But sometimes it’s nice when you guys just take the lead and make the decision.This is not a free pass to always choose what you want to do; you still need to consider what she might like.
Pick something you can both enjoy and let her know “we are going to a movie tonight, be ready to leave at 8pm”
Trust me she’ll love it.
6. Show her affection
Girls love cuddles, kisses, and any affection really.
If she has to ask for affection, it doesn’t really count so your girl will probably never tell you. But she secretly wants you to show her affection.
We get it, some guys are not comfortable with PDA (public displays of affection) but there are SO many ways to show affection. It can be as simple as holding hands, squeezing her thigh as you are driving, or putting your arm around her during a movie.
Find something that you are comfortable with and give it a try.
7. Small acts of kindness
I’m not talking about gifts here.
Most girls don’t expect you to shower them with gifts (although some do!) but all girls appreciate small acts of kindness.
Little things count, like surprising her with her favorite snack or leaving a sweet note. It brightens her day.
It just has to show that you were thinking of her.
My boyfriend once wrote me a really simple and sweet note in my work notebook. When I opened it up at work and saw it, it made my day.
I kept the note, and it still makes me smile when I see it.
8. Be spontaneous
We can all get stuck in a rut. It is nice for one partner to be spontaneous every once in a while.
And yes, your girl could do this for you as well. But you can start the trend.
Anything that breaks routine will work here.
Plan a day out or mini adventure; suggest doing something that you don’t normally do together. Mixing up the routine is enough, it doesn’t have to be anything over the top.
I remember this one time when my friend Jake surprised his girlfriend, Emily, with a spontaneous picnic in the park.
Emily was over the moon and couldn’t stop talking about it for weeks. It made him realize how small, unexpected gestures can have a big impact.
Of course, your girl can’t ask you to be spontaneous because spontaneity can’t be planned but she secretly wants it.
9. Remember important details
Remembering small but important details is a really great way to show that you care
Don’t say you are not good at remembering things, that is not an excuse. If you can’t remember things easily, take note of them on your calendar. Have your phone remind you. It’s simple.
But what count as important details?
Literally, anything that is important to your girlfriend.
The obvious ones are birthdays and anniversaries. It can also be remembering that she has a big presentation at work and sending her a good luck text. Or remembering she has a doctor’s appointment and asking her how it went.
Again, she will never tell you but she secretly wants you to remember important details.
10. Spend quality time with her
We know you might live together and spend every evening together but simply being in the same space doesn’t count as spending quality time.
When you’re together, put away the phones. Be in the moment and enjoy each other’s company. Just for a few minutes each day.
You don’t have to make a big deal about this. It is as simple as enjoying a tea together, chatting about your day. Or eating dinner without any phones or TV while sharing news from the day.
It is so simple, and she will definitely appreciate it.
Of course, you can also create other opportunities for quality time through dates and adventures, but we’ve already covered that.
11. Help with chores (without being asked)
I hate to include this because it is so cliché, but it is important.
And yes your girl probably might already ask you to help with chores (if you live together) so it’s no secret.
But what she secretly wants you to do is pitch in before she asks. And just do something that needs to be done instead of asking “What should I do?”
It’s crazy how much girls love this. My colleague Jane talks about how her partner always helps with the dishes and it makes all the girls in the office jealous.
Chores are boring. No one wants to do them.
But doing them together is a way of showing you are a team and it makes life easier for both of you.
12. Have her back
This is a big one.
Every girl secretly wants her man to have her back. This doesn’t mean you have to fight anyone who is rude to her. It just means being in her corner and backing her up in any situation publicly.
Don’t let your friends or family disrespect her. Don’t allow her to be the butt of the joke.
Another way you can have her back is to speak highly of her when she is not there.
This could be to your own friends, family, or work colleagues. You might think she will never find out either way, but we do. So don’t take the chance.
A few years back a friend of mine had a new boyfriend. She invited him to a night out in our local pub.
Her new boyfriend, Jack, was trying to impress her friends and family. Every time her back was turned he made her the butt of the joke, made fun of her, and belittled her.
Needless to say, he did not get the seal of approval from friends and family.
Don’t be like Jack.
13. Reassure her
Last but certainly not least, no matter how much you think you show her that you care or how much you actually tell her, she secretly wants you to reassure her just a little bit more.
And just when you think you have reassured her enough, reassure her one last time.
There is no such thing as too much reassurance!
To finish
In a nutshell, these small things can have a big impact.
So, give them a try and soon you’ll see your girlfriend is happier…and your life is easier.
You can thank us later!