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Ever wondered if there are things you do that secretly drive your girl crazy?
Well, you’re in the right place.
Today, we’ll talk about some everyday stuff that men do that so many of us women hate.
Of course, not all men have to do all of these things, but I’d bet most are guilty of at least a few from time to time.
How many are you guilty of?
Let’s find out.
1. Missing emotional cues
It is no secret that women are often more in tune with their emotions and non-verbal cues. When your girl expresses herself subtly or indirectly, like through body language or tone of voice, it’s important for you to pay attention.
Missing or Ignoring these cues or dismissing them as unimportant can lead to feelings of frustration and unmet emotional needs.
Have you ever asked your girl “What’s wrong?” and she replies “Nothing.”
But clearly, there is something wrong.
Yes, I admit, we are a complex species.
But there are emotional cues here that tell you something is wrong. If you simply accept her first answer and move on as normal, she may feel like you don’t care about her emotional needs.
Ideally, what we want you to do here is let us know that you are open to understanding why we are upset and that you are interested in being part of the solution.
Trust me. Once we see this, we will open up to you.
02. Half listening
Being able to communicate properly is crucial in any relationship.
Men sometimes listen without truly hearing what women are saying. Honestly, it’s like some men hear the words but not the meaning.
It often leads to conversations later on where you claim that you never heard about this topic before.
Sound familiar?
After thirty-something years being with my mom, my Dad has still not learned the art of fully listening. And I will regularly hear my Mother utter the words “I told you about this last week!” to which my Dad will undoubtedly reply “I don’t remember you telling me that”.
Why?
Because he was only half listening.
Women can tell if you are not fully listening, and it can leave us feeling unheard and frustrated.
Fully listening involves showing genuine interest, asking follow-up questions, and acknowledging her thoughts and feelings.
3. Interrupting her while she is talking
Interrupting anyone when they are speaking may be seen as disrespectful. But interrupting your girl when she is telling you a story, expressing emotion, or seeking your advice can be very hurtful.
We know that you don’t mean to be hurtful. However, randomly interrupting what she is saying to make an observation or to bring up a new topic or question altogether can make her feel as though what she is saying is not important enough to hold your attention.
Instead of interrupting, it is better to wait until she is finished with what she is saying and acknowledge it. Then, and only then, share your thoughts if you still want to.
And for clarity, this is not just during an argument. Many men do this during regular everyday conversation, and they don’t even know they are doing it.
4. Being vague with details
When my partner and I first started dating, he was so vague with details. It didn’t matter what we talked about; it just felt like he was giving me the bare minimum.
If he didn’t pick up my call, he’d call back and say “I was on another call.” Or if I asked about his day, he’d just say ‘good’.
Who was there? What did you do? Where did you eat?
We women love details. We want all of the information all of the time. And whilst we understand that men are not wired in the same way, it’d be nice to meet halfway and share just a bit more detail with us.
You guys probably don’t even realize you are doing it, but by being vague with details, it can feel like you are keeping us at arm’s length like you don’t want to share your lives with us.
I am sure that is not the case for you and your girl, so let us in!
When I finally talked to my partner about it, he started sharing a few more details, and it hasn’t been an issue since.
5. Doing the bare minimum around the house
I hate to be the one to break it to you, but if you are living with your significant other, 50% of the chores are your responsibility (assuming both of you are working full-time).
Now, I know you might be thinking that you do clean up after yourself. You pick up your stuff and do your laundry.
However, as well as looking after your chores specifically, there are shared chores, that often fall on the woman.
Some simple examples include grocery shopping, laundering towels and bedsheets, vacuuming, etc.
Do more than just look after things that relate directly to you and watch your significant other fall more in love with you instantly.
6. Refusing to share how you feel
You probably know that your girl hates this one.
All men have emotions. However, many refuse to share them.
We hate this.
Bottling up your feelings and shutting us out makes us feel like part of the problem, instead of part of the solution.
And although it may seem to you like we forget about it and life goes on as normal, it does not. Unresolved issues stay with women forever.
To prevent these things from building up into bigger issues, share how you feel at the time. Or even the next day once you have had time to process your feelings.
7. Forgetting important dates
This is a very cliché thing that men should know all women hate.
And it is so easy to fix. So why do so many men let this happen time and time again?
Forgetting important dates like birthdays, anniversaries, and big occasions in your lives makes us feel like we are not important to you.
And yes, we know that forgetting something is an honest mistake. However, you won’t forget when your favorite sports team is playing or when your next game of golf is with the boys.
…which tells us that you don’t forget things that are important to you. And we want to be important to you.
So make a simple note in your calendar to ensure you don’t forget important dates, and your life will be much easier.
8. Not showing appreciation
Most men probably don’t even realize it, but once the honeymoon phase of a relationship ends, men often stop showing appreciation.
This can be as simple as compliments or a thank you for doing something kind.
Women hate to feel underappreciated or taken for granted, so looking out for opportunities to appreciate things she does for you will go a long way in making her feel loved and appreciated.
Another way to do this is to take the initiative to organize something for her, just because.
It can be a small or big gesture, but it really is the thought that counts.
9. Lacking interest in shared projects
Story time: my friend Gemma and her boyfriend Jack were so excited when they got their golden retriever puppy, Buster. They had both wanted a dog for the longest time and were finally ready when they moved into a house with a back garden.
After only six weeks, Gemma noticed that Jack was not interested in training Buster anymore. He never went out to scoop the poop or take him for a walk unless she asked him to do so.
She was really frustrated by this.
This is an example of a guy showing a lack of interest in a shared project. They both wanted the dog, but Jack was only interested in the fun parts of being a dog owner and left the rest to Gemma.
If you commit to any shared project, we hate to feel like we have to nag and beg you to pull your weight. It is not our responsibility to project manage, plan, organize, and coordinate everything.
To prevent this, show up, be present, and be proactive about all aspects of the shared project, not just the chores your girlfriend has had to assign to you.
The bottom line
So, there you have it! We’ve uncovered some of those sneaky habits that you guys might not even know are causing a bit of frustration in your relationships.
The good news is that awareness is the first step toward improvement.
By being more mindful, respectful, and considerate in your interactions, you can make those connections with the ladies in your lives stronger, which makes your life easier.
Remember, happy wife, happy life!