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You’ve heard it all, from the having a fat wallet to being Mr. Muscle and everything in between. But what actually makes a man high value…in the eyes of a woman?
Today, we set the record straight.
Spoiler. There’s more to being a high-value man than the materialist, surface-level clichés like money and status.
You might be pleasantly surprised to discover that it’s not all about flashy cars, six-pack abs, or a mountain of cash in the bank (although those things can be nice too, let’s be real).
Let’s jump in and explore a woman’s perspective on the 10 things that actually make a man high-value
1. Confidence
Have you ever seen a really hot girl on the arm of a mediocre guy and wondered how on earth did he get her?
There are only two possibilities; he’s mega-rich (cliché but true) or he is a self-assured, confident guy.
I went to a wedding a few years ago. A friend of the groom, Chris, made a speech during the ceremony. He was a regular guy, nothing special but he oozed confidence.
I hadn’t even met Chris yet but I turned to my date and said “I guarantee you his girlfriend is drop-dead gorgeous”.
And she was. A guy with that much confidence is high value for sure and will have his pick of the ladies.
There is nothing quite like a confident, self-assured man.
This is not to be confused with a cocky or arrogant man. There is a fine line. But confidence is a clear indicator that you are a high-value man.
2. Ambition
It think it’s a common misconception among guys that you have to be wealthy and successful to be considered a high-value man, by any woman.
This is simply not true.
Most women are not attracted to the success but to a real man with an ambitious and goal-orientated nature.
The opposite is a lazy, unmotivated slob. And that is definitely not a high-value man.
A few years ago, my friend Lisa, met this seemingly great guy; they just clicked. After a few dates, she started to notice that he didn’t seem to work during typical work hours.
She asked him about his job and it turned out he had been unemployed for several months. Living off his parent’s money, he just ‘hadn’t gotten around to finding a new job yet’.
It wasn’t the fact that he didn’t have a job that turned her off, it was the fact that he had no ambition.
Lisa ended things the very next date.
An ambitious man who wants more for himself and is willing to work for it makes him a high-value man. The success you gain from it is a bonus.
3. Emotional intelligence
I know that women have a reputation for being emotional and talking about our feelings!
Emotionally Intelligent men are still quite rare, however.
What does it mean to be emotionally intelligent? I hear you ask.
Well, it simply means being able to manage your own emotions and the emotions of those around you.
Yes, we women are emotional beings so if you are able to be in touch with your emotions and understand what we need and when, that is amazing.
I cannot stress how rare and how attractive emotionally intelligent men are.
When we find this in a guy, we just know you are a high-value man.
4. The ability to be vulnerable
Another misconception is that to be vulnerable is to be weak.
In reality, from a woman’s perspective, the total opposite is true. Vulnerability indicates strength for us.
I dated a guy once, and he took me to the fairground. When I suggested we go on the drop tower, he looked awkward and nervous.
“What’s wrong?” I asked.
He told me he didn’t like heights and would prefer not to go on it…he was worried I’d think he was less of a man.
By admitting that to me so early in our ‘relationship’ he showed me that he had the ability to be vulnerable. And guess what?
It made me even more attracted to him.
Of course, no one wants an emotional wreck but bon’t be afraid to show vulnerability by asking for what you want, admitting you are hurt or expressing how you feel.
5. Respectful communication
A high-value man understands that words carry weight and impact, and he uses them wisely.
Whether it’s in a relationship, at work, or with friends, he listens actively and responds thoughtfully.
He doesn’t resort to rudeness, insults, or condescension. Instead, he values open, honest, and respectful dialogue.
This quality not only fosters healthier relationships but also reflects his emotional maturity and genuine care for others.
I remember going on a date with a guy a few years back. It started off great. He was attractive, the conversation was flowing, and we seemed to have a lot in common.
It all came crumbling down, however. He was extremely rude to the waiter for making a simple mistake with the order.
It completely turned me off. I never saw him again.
6. Kindness and empathy
Early on, women notice a high-value man’s kindness and empathy shining through in various ways.
But what do we notice?
He actively listens when she speaks, demonstrating his genuine interest in what she has to say.
He is quick to lend a helping hand, offer a listening ear, or provide support when someone is in need.
His compassion shines through in how he treats people, from friends and family to strangers.
Small acts of kindness, like making thoughtful gestures, brighten our days and showcase his caring nature.
These early indicators reveal a man who values the well-being of those around him, making him truly highly valued in any woman’s eyes.
7. Independence
Independence is a hallmark of a high-value man, but it’s important to distinguish it from wealth.
So what is an independent man then?
He’s able to stand on his own two feet, pursue his ambitions, and handle life’s challenges with resilience.
He is financially independent but doesn’t need to be a millionaire. He certainly doesn’t depend solely on his bank account to define his worth.
His independence isn’t about flaunting material riches; it’s about his ability to navigate life confidently, making him a reliable and self-sufficient partner and friend.
And this is something that makes him a high-value man in the eyes of most women.
8. Respect for boundaries
This is a big one.
A high-value man respects personal boundaries.
Whether in a relationship, at work, or in everyday interactions, he values consent and respects others’ personal space and choices.
For women like and my friends, this shows maturity and consideration for people’s feelings, making him someone who’s appreciated and trusted by those around him.
It also indicates a confident man. He doesn’t come across as desperate or needy, as he’s secure in himself and his relationships.
This emotional maturity and self-assuredness make him stand out as a high-value individual in any situation.
9. Honesty & integrity
Unfortunately, this is a difficult and rare trait to find as men often feel the need to lie and deceive, especially early in a relationship in an effort to come across as more impressive.
The funny thing is the most impressive thing for us ladies is to see some honesty and loyalty early on.
Early in my own relationship, I remember that my partner always did what he said he was going to do.
If he said he’d call after work, sure enough, I would receive a call.
If he said he’d take me out on the weekend, he’d make plans and follow through.
It was so simple but this really conveyed to me early that honesty and loyalty were part of who he is and I knew I had a high value man.
10. A sense of humor & some charisma
Have you ever heard a woman say “I just want a guy who can make me laugh!”
Yes! And here’s why;
From a woman’s perspective, charisma and humor are magnetic qualities of a high-value man.
Charisma isn’t about being the loudest person in the room; it’s the ability to make people feel comfortable and captivated by your presence.A high-value man’s charisma draws others in effortlessly, making them feel special and valued.
His sense of humor is equally charming.
He knows how to lighten the mood and bring laughter into everyday life. Whether it’s through witty banter, playful teasing, or a well-timed joke, his humor creates an enjoyable and relaxed atmosphere.
Women appreciate a man who can make them smile, as it adds warmth and positivity to any interaction.
To finish
It’s crucial to remember that being a high-value man, especially from a woman’s perspective, isn’t about flaunting wealth, adhering to traditional notions of masculinity, or making flashy displays of affluence.
True high-value traits go beyond material possessions and stereotypes.
They include kindness, empathy, respectful communication, emotional intelligence, loyalty, honesty, independence, and a great sense of humor.
They create deep connections, foster trust, and make a lasting impression on those around him.
So there you have it, gentlemen.
As you strive to be high-value men, focus on developing these authentic traits that genuinely define your worth and make you stand out in the most meaningful ways.