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Want to find a truly good woman? Well, I am here to help.
Through my years of experience as a relationship expert, I’ve noticed certain common habits that many men unknowingly cling to, which can actually hinder their chances of forming a real connection.
Today, I share these with you.
These habits might seem benign or even beneficial on the surface, but they can subtly undermine the authenticity and emotional openness required for a lasting relationship.
So, grab a coffee, settle in, and let’s delve into these habits that you might need to ditch if you really want to attract a good woman. It’s not about reinventing yourself but rather, shedding the unnecessary layers that obscure your true self.
Trust me, the results will be worth it! Let’s get started.
1) Pretending to be someone you’re not
We’ve all heard the phrase “fake it till you make it”. But when it comes to attracting good women, this strategy often falls short.
Why? Because good women can see through a façade.
Sure, you might catch someone’s eye with an exaggerated story or a polished persona. But at the end of the day, a good woman wants to be with someone genuine, someone real.
I’ve met countless men who’ve tried to put on a show, hoping to impress. But here’s the thing – the good women, the ones you really want to attract, they aren’t looking for a performance.
They’re looking for authenticity. They want to know who you truly are, not who you’re pretending to be.
So my first piece of advice? Drop the act. Be yourself. It might feel scary at first, but it’s the first step towards attracting a woman who truly appreciates you for who you are.
2) Neglecting self-care
Now, I’m not just talking about skipping the occasional shower or forgetting to shave. Self-care goes deeper than physical appearance – it’s about taking care of your mental and emotional health, too.
Think about it. If you’re not taking care of yourself, how can you expect to take care of someone else?
A good woman wants to be with a man who knows how to take care of himself, who respects himself enough to prioritize his own well-being.
3) Being overly dependent
This is a big one.
You see, a good woman is attracted to a man who is independent and capable, someone who can stand on his own two feet.
Being overly dependent on someone else for your happiness or self-worth is a recipe for disaster. Not only does it put undue pressure on your partner, but it also stifles your personal growth.
In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve deeper into this topic. I’ve seen how codependency can ruin relationships and stifle personal growth.
A healthy relationship is made up of two whole individuals, not two halves trying to make a whole.
4) Trying to fix everything
This one might seem counterintuitive, but hear me out.
In my years as a relationship expert, I’ve noticed that many men have a natural instinct to solve problems. When their partner is upset, they immediately jump to finding a solution.
But here’s the kicker – sometimes, a good woman doesn’t want you to fix the problem. Sometimes, she just wants you to listen.
It’s not about solving every issue that arises. It’s about being present, being supportive, and understanding that not every problem needs an immediate solution.
5) Avoiding emotional vulnerability
I get it. Opening up, letting your guard down, being vulnerable – it can be scary. Heck, there were times in my life when I found it easier to scale a mountain than to share my deepest feelings.
But here’s what I’ve learned: vulnerability is not a weakness. On the contrary, it’s a strength. It’s the ability to show your true self, to express your emotions openly and honestly.
And it’s crucial for a healthy relationship.
Perhaps renowned author Brené Brown put it best when she wrote, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
A good woman appreciates a man who isn’t afraid to be vulnerable, who’s capable of sharing his feelings and emotions. It shows strength, courage, and a deep level of trust.
So don’t be afraid to open up. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but with time, you’ll find that emotional vulnerability can lead to deeper, more meaningful connections.
6) Trying to control everything
Life is unpredictable. Things go wrong. Plans fall apart. And that’s okay. It’s part of being human.
But when you try to control everything, you set yourself up for stress, disappointment, and frustration. And let me tell you – these aren’t attractive qualities.
A good woman doesn’t want a man who tries to control every aspect of their life together. She wants someone who can roll with the punches, who can adapt and adjust when things don’t go as planned.
Let go of the need to control everything. Embrace the unpredictability of life. It’s not only liberating but also incredibly attractive.
7) Ignoring her needs
Here’s the last, and perhaps most important, habit to ditch: ignoring her needs.
This one is raw and honest. A good woman isn’t looking for a man who puts his needs above hers, who dismisses her feelings or desires. She’s looking for a partner – someone who respects her needs and values her input.
Ignoring her needs can lead to resentment, frustration, and ultimately, the end of a relationship. And believe me, no one wants that.
So make it a point to listen to her, to pay attention to her needs. It’s not about being at her beck and call, but about showing her that you value her and that her needs are just as important as yours.
Conclusion
Attracting a good woman isn’t about pretending or putting on a show.
It’s about being genuine, respectful, and considerate. And by ditching these habits, you’re well on your way to doing just that.
For more advice on building healthy relationships and overcoming codependency, feel free to check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.
At the end of the day, attracting a good woman is about respect, authenticity, and emotional maturity. So ditch these habits, step outside your comfort zone, and get ready to meet the woman of your dreams.
Best of luck on your journey!