If you’re going through a midlife crisis, you need to stop doing these 10 things

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So, you’re in the middle of your life, and things are feeling a bit… tricky?

Suddenly, everything is up for review and you’re asking a lot of big questions.

You’re not alone. Many people go through this – it’s often called a midlife crisis.

But don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom.

Sometimes, you just need to tweak your perspective a little bit and make some different choices.

To help you out, we’ve made a list of 10 things that you should try to stop doing if you’re in the middle of a midlife crisis. So let’s take a deep breath and dive in together.

1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

First things first, if you’re going through a midlife crisis, it’s time to stop comparing yourself to others.

Trust me, it’s a trap.

You might see your friends or colleagues achieving certain milestones or living a life that makes you feel like you’re lagging behind.

But the thing is, everyone has their own path and pace in life. Comparing your journey with others can only make you feel worse.

Instead, focus on appreciating what you have achieved and plan for what you want next. Everyone’s story is different, including yours.

2. Quit Trying to Control Everything

Life is unpredictable. It’s this unpredictability that makes it exciting and worth living.

But if you’re in the midst of a midlife crisis, you might feel an urge to control everything around you.

You might think that if you can control everything, you can prevent undesirable situations.

But, let’s be honest, does that ever really work?

No, it doesn’t.

Instead, it only increases your stress and anxiety levels.

It’s important to step back and surrender a bit of control. Accept that there are things in life you simply can’t control, and that’s completely okay.

3. Stop Ignoring Your Health

I’ll be honest, I was guilty of this one.

In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s so easy to push your health to the back burner. When I hit my midlife crisis, I was so focused on figuring out my life that I began to neglect my own health. I was eating poorly, skipping workouts, and my sleep schedule was all over the place.

Not surprisingly, it took a toll on my overall well-being.

One day, I just woke up and realized that neglecting my health wasn’t helping me navigate through my midlife crisis, it was actually making things worse. So, I made a promise to myself to prioritize my health. I started working out regularly, eating balanced meals, and ensuring I got enough sleep every night.

And you know what? It made a huge difference.

I found that when I started taking care of myself physically, it had a positive impact on my mental and emotional health as well.

4. Stop Neglecting Your Passions

Remember when you were a kid and you had that one thing you loved doing? Whether it was painting, playing an instrument, dancing, or even building model airplanes, we all had something that brought us joy.

But as we grow older, these passions often get sidelined.

Here’s an interesting fact: according to a study by the San Francisco State University, having a hobby can reduce stress and improve your work performance. Engaging in a hobby you love can actually make you happier and more productive in your daily life.

If you’ve been neglecting your passions, now’s the time to reconnect with them. Rediscover what makes you happy and incorporate it into your everyday routine. It might seem small, but it can make a big difference in overcoming that midlife slump.

5. Stop Fearing Change

Change can be scary, there’s no denying it. However, fearing change only holds us back from growth and new possibilities.

If you’re in the midst of a midlife crisis, you might feel like a boat being tossed around in a stormy sea, unsure of where you’re heading. It’s a time of change and uncertainty, but it’s also a time for growth and renewal.

Here’s the thing: change is inevitable. It’s a part of life.

And while it might be scary, it also opens doors to new opportunities, experiences, and paths that you may never have discovered otherwise.

Instead of fearing change, embrace it with open arms. It might lead you to a place far better than where you started.

6. Stop Putting Off Your Dreams

This one hits close to home. For years, I had a bucket list of dreams that I kept putting off. “I’ll do it when I have more time,” or “I’ll do it when the kids are older,” or “I’ll do it when I retire.” I had a million excuses to delay my dreams.

But when I found myself in the midst of a midlife crisis, I realized something critical – there’s no “perfect” time to chase your dreams. The “right” time is now. Because life is unpredictable, and waiting for the perfect moment might mean never getting around to it at all.

So, I started ticking off things from my bucket list one by one. And let me tell you, it was liberating! Each dream fulfilled brought me closer to myself and made me feel alive.

If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do – a dream trip, learning a new skill, starting your own business – don’t put it off any longer. Start taking steps toward your dreams today. It can be a game-changer in your journey through midlife.

7. Stop Trying to Please Everyone

Are you a people-pleaser? Do you find yourself always bending over backward to make everyone else happy, often at your own expense? If your answer is yes, then it’s high time to stop.

Here’s the thing: you can’t please everyone. And guess what? That’s perfectly okay. You’re not a superhero or a magical creature whose mission is to spread happiness everywhere at the cost of your own peace and sanity.

When I was going through my midlife crisis, I realized that I was draining myself trying to make everyone else happy. But in the process, I was ignoring my own needs and wants. It was a tough pill to swallow, but it was a necessary wake-up call.

8. Stop Living in the Past

We all have a past with moments of joy, sorrow, success and failure. But if you’re constantly dwelling on what was, it can stop you from enjoying and embracing what is and what could be.

People who let go of past regrets are more likely to have better mental health. Holding onto past mistakes or ‘what could have been’ scenarios can lead to stress, anxiety and depression.

Letting go of the past doesn’t mean forgetting it. It simply means accepting it as a part of your journey and using it as a stepping stone to move forward. Remember, you cannot change the past, but you can learn from it and shape your future.

9. Stop Overcomplicating Things

I don’t know about you, but I have a tendency to overthink. I can take a simple situation and turn it into a complex web of ‘what ifs’ and worst-case scenarios. When I went through my midlife crisis, this habit went into overdrive. Every decision felt monumental and fraught with potential disaster.

One day, a wise friend said to me, “You’re overcomplicating things. Life isn’t meant to be this hard.” And you know what? She was right. I had been making life more difficult by overthinking and overcomplicating every little thing.

Instead, try to simplify things. Take life one day at a time, one decision at a time. Don’t let your mind turn molehills into mountains. Life is complicated enough without us adding extra layers of complexity to it.

10. Stop Ignoring Your Relationships

Relationships – whether they’re with your partner, your kids, your friends – are the bedrock of a fulfilling life. But when you’re in the throes of a midlife crisis, it’s all too easy to push them aside as you grapple with your own internal struggles.

Ignoring your relationships doesn’t make your crisis any easier. If anything, it makes it harder, lonelier.

These are the people who love you, who support you– they can be your rock during this tumultuous time.

So, don’t shut them out. Instead, lean on them, let them in. It might feel vulnerable, but remember vulnerability breeds connection.

I recommend checking out the brother below by my brother Justin Brown. He’s a few years ahead of me when it comes to the midlife crisis. In the video he talks about the importance of holding onto your relationships even when you feel like changing them. It’s an important point and worth embracing.