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We hear a lot these days about “toxic masculinity”. So much, in fact, that many people have started to equate masculinity itself with something toxic—something to be avoided, ashamed of, or hidden away.
But here’s the truth: there’s nothing inherently wrong with masculinity. Healthy masculinity exists, and it’s something to be proud of. It’s part of what makes men who they are, and it’s about time we talk about what it really means to embody it.
In this post, we’re breaking down five key behaviors that define men who embody such healthy masculinity.
1. Asking for help when needed
This is such a huge one.
Far too many men today bottle things up and try to go it alone.
I guess it’s hardly a surprise; we’re surrounded by media that glorifies the lone wolf—the rugged, self-reliant man who doesn’t need anyone.
But here’s the truth: none of us are lone wolves. Hell, not even wolves are lone wolves.
Humans are social creatures. We thrive in connection with others and study after study confirms this. The Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies on happiness, for instance, found that strong relationships more than anything else are key to living healthier, happier lives.
Not convinced?
Let’s talk about Marcus Aurelius, the stoic philosopher and Roman Emperor—the most powerful man in the world at the time. His personal journal, Meditations, is full of insights on the importance of working together. He wrote, “We are all working together to a single end,” and “What does not benefit the hive is not a benefit to the bee.” And perhaps most strikingly, he advised himself, “Do not be ashamed to be helped.”
Think about that. Marcus Aurelius—a man who pretty much ruled the world—acknowledged the importance of seeking help. He wasn’t writing for an audience, either. These were private reflections, meant only for himself. If a man like him recognized the power of connection and collaboration, why shouldn’t we?
Asking for help when needed isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of wisdom and strength. It’s about recognizing that we can’t—and shouldn’t—do everything alone. Healthy masculinity embraces the idea that reaching out for support is not only okay but essential for growth, connection, and well-being.
2. Emotional intelligence
How often do we, as men, associate emotions with weakness? It’s a common stereotype, isn’t it? The idea that having emotions somehow makes us less “manly.”
Well, the reality is quite the opposite.
Men who embody healthy masculinity aren’t afraid of their emotions. They recognize that understanding and managing their feelings—not ignoring or suppressing them—is a strength, not a weakness.
Now, I am not saying you should pour your heart out to everyone you meet; not at all. However, addressing your own emotions and striving to understand those of others is absolutely something you should do!
This emotional intelligence (EQ) helps strong men navigate relationships, handle conflicts with grace, and connect with others on a deeper level. It’s the trait that allows them to inspire, lead, and make decisions that aren’t just logical but compassionate too.
And if that’s not convincing enough, consider this: research shows that emotional intelligence is linked to higher earnings. People with a high EQ were found to earn, on average, $29,000 more per year than those with a low EQ.
3. Self-awareness
Imagine for a second that you’re standing in front of a mirror. But instead of your physical reflection, you’re looking at your thoughts, feelings, motives, and behaviors. This is what self-awareness feels like. It’s like having an inner mirror that allows you to understand yourself on a deeper level.
Men who embody healthy masculinity possess this quality of self-awareness. They are tuned into their own emotions and understand how their behaviors and actions affect others. They are aware of their strengths and weaknesses and are not afraid to accept their flaws.
Self-awareness is the cornerstone of personal growth. It assists in identifying areas for improvement and monitoring progress towards personal goals. It also helps in understanding one’s own emotional reactions and how they impact relationships.
A self-aware man knows when he needs to apologize, when he needs to step back, or when he needs to make changes in his life. This understanding and acceptance of oneself fosters authenticity, a key trait in healthy masculinity.
4. Expressions of love and affection
Do you love your parents? Really think about it.
Now, let me ask you another question: Do you tell them that you love them? Do you tell your father you love him?
For many men, the answer to the first question is yes—but the second? That’s often a no. Are you one of them? And if so, why?
Truly strong men understand that being affectionate doesn’t diminish their manliness; instead, it deepens their relationships and enriches their emotional lives. Showing affection is a reflection of security in who they are as men, knowing that kindness, warmth, and love don’t make them any less masculine.
Whether it’s telling your parents you love them, hugging your kids, or simply being open about your feelings with your partner or friends, expressing love and affection is a cornerstone of healthy masculinity.
5. Accountability
Last but not least, let’s talk about accountability.
It’s the weak man who shies away from taking responsibility—whether it’s for his actions, his mistakes, or his obligations. Blaming others, making excuses, or running from consequences might seem easier in the moment, but it erodes trust, respect, and integrity.
Men who embody healthy masculinity understand that true strength lies in owning up to their choices. They’re not afraid to admit when they’re wrong, apologize when needed, and learn from their mistakes. It isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being honest and striving to do better.
Accountability also means following through on commitments. Whether it’s showing up for your family, keeping your word to a friend, or honoring a promise to yourself, reliable actions define character. It’s this trait that earns the respect of others and builds trust over time.
The Bottom Line
Healthy masculinity isn’t about adhering to outdated stereotypes or striving for perfection—it’s about balance, authenticity, and personal growth.
The behaviors outlined here—asking for help, embracing emotional intelligence, cultivating self-awareness, expressing love and affection, and practicing accountability—are key behaviors of truly masculine men and powerful tools for building stronger relationships and living a more meaningful life.
We’d love to hear about your own experiences or thoughts on this topic. What does healthy masculinity mean to you? Do you have any additional traits or behaviors to add to this list?
Share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s continue this important conversation together.