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At 30 years old, I was broke and lived with my parents.
My dating life was non-existent, and even though I started my own business one year before, it was stagnating.
No matter what I tried, I felt destined to fail.
But looking back, I see now that my problems boiled down to one thing:
I never understood my worth. This led to low confidence and a lack of self-belief.
Years later, after finally “waking up” and letting go of self-deprecating limiting beliefs, life is so much better.
I have a successful business that allows me to travel the world, and I’ve found my soulmate on top of it.
Recognizing my value and worth was the magic ingredient I’d been missing. Once I embedded this into my mindset, I started winning in life.
Do you understand your worth? You’ll soon find out.
Because in this post, you’ll learn exactly what it means when a man knows his worth. We’ll also talk about how you can embed these points in your life.
1) He Beams With Positivity and Has High Self-Esteem
A man who knows his worth will exude positivity and always look at the bright side of things.
He’s sure of himself and will know exactly what needs to be done to fix the issue on hand.
When he values himself, he will be able to remain self-aware of both his strengths and weaknesses. This enables them to remain unfazed even in the face of adversity.
He can also be positive because he’s comfortable with his identity.
He knows what he’s capable of and won’t let naysayers get to him.
A man who knows his worth will respect his height, weight, professionalism, and the work he does.
He can create and maintain good relationships with the people around him.
How to implement this into your life:
Books like The Law of Attraction advise you to fake it until you make it. They promote ignoring the negative side of life and keeping your thoughts 100% positive.
The problem with this is that it’s not realistic.
In real life, you’ll encounter negative situations and challenges.
You’ll have to deal with them one way or another, so you might as well learn how to deal with them well.
To become a positive person, the first step is to accept yourself for who you are.
When you truly accept yourself, you value all parts of yourself – both the positive and the negative.
It means you embrace your current reality, come to terms with it, and aspire to live your life as best as possible.
So be honest with yourself.
I find writing clears my mind and helps me understand things better.
Here are some questions to get you started:
1) What the hell do I want?
2) What is weighing me down that I don’t need in my life?
3) What do I already know that will immediately improve my life?
4) How can I respect myself more today?
Remember: It is challenging to create the reality you want if you aren’t willing to let the false reality go.
2) He Carries Himself With Confidence
If he’s a guy who knows his worth, he will be able to carry himself confidently.
He will show that he knows what he can achieve, and the quality of his work will reflect the same.
He will present himself as a man of competence and strive to work harder to achieve his goals when the going gets tough.
This also means that he ultimately believes in his knowledge, skills, and experience to make a difference in the world around him.
He is not intimidated by other guys.
This doesn’t mean he thinks of himself as infallible.
Rather, he has explored different facets of his arsenal of capabilities and is fully aware of his flaws.
He uses his confidence to overcome these flaws and become the best version of himself.
How to implement this in your life:
Be conscious about the things you say about yourself. Self-talk is very powerful and is how we form our perception of reality.
People tend to talk themselves down because they don’t like who they are or want to be something else.
Negative self-talk can become a nasty habit. Try to avoid it as much as possible.
When you catch yourself falling into these habits, remind yourself that you have all the power to choose your words and thoughts.
Realize that your thoughts shape your reality, so choose them wisely.
3) He Knows His Purpose and Understands the Difference He Makes in the World
When a man knows his worth and he is of high value, he will also know his purpose in life.
He knows what he wants to achieve in life and is intentional with every step he takes to reach his destination.
He clearly understands what he has to offer and centers his life around his ambitions.
The fact that he’s not only capable of bringing growth to the table but can also inspire the people around him to achieve their dreams makes him attractive and high-value.
If he knows his worth, then he will likely be with someone who can appreciate his efforts to reach that place in life and would like to have a partner who isn’t miserable in their own life.
How to implement this into your life:
Ask yourself:
What’s important for you?
What do you want out of life?
How will others benefit from your existence?
When you have the answers to these questions, you can start setting realistic goals for yourself.
Once you have goals and direction, your daily habits and actions become more apparent, and you’re purposefully living life.
4) He’s His Own Competition
A man who values himself highly will view himself as a peer and treat himself as his toughest competitor.
He doesn’t devalue anyone in life, nor does he let the successes of others define his actions.
He will make it clear that he seeks to be better than the version of himself that existed yesterday and will set his eyes on the future instead of getting into petty squabbles to get a one-up over his peers.
His ability to value himself will allow him to judge everyone fairly.
He will neither be a supplicant who rolls over nor does he have a sense of entitlement.
You may even observe that he aspires to intelligence and doesn’t belittle anyone in his professional or personal life.
He is a humble man who treats everyone with respect.
How to implement this into your daily life:
Stop comparing yourself to others and what other people think about you. We all have different circumstances in life. When you compare yourself to others and hang on to what other people say about you, your perception of reality is skewed, and you start to believe in falsehoods.
“I’m not as successful as he is so I’m not good enough.”
Stop. Stop and think again.
Here is a quote from Spiritual Master Osho which might help you understand how useless comparing is:
“Nobody can say anything about you. Whatsoever people say is about themselves. But you become very shaky because you are still clinging to a false center. That false center depends on others, so you are always looking at what people are saying about you. And you are always following other people, you are always trying to satisfy them. You are always trying to be respectable, you are always trying to decorate your ego. This is suicidal. Rather than being disturbed by what others say, you should start looking inside yourself…
“Whenever you are self-conscious you are simply showing that you are not conscious of the self at all. You don’t know who you are. If you had known, then there would have been no problem— then you are not seeking opinions. Then you are not worried what others say about you— it is irrelevant!”
5) He Doesn’t Undervalue the Things He Does (or The Things You Do For Him)
People who don’t undervalue the things they do generally know their worth.
He knows the efforts he puts into his work and doesn’t undercharge in his professional line of work.
He may not even mind if he loses out on a few clients along the way because he has no intention of working with someone who can’t respect the quality of his services.
This quality can even trickle into their personal life.
You can be sure that he will be a man who knows what he brings to the table and may expect appreciation for the things he does for you.
On the flip side, he will never fail to appreciate people’s efforts to help him.
How to implement this into your daily life:
Don’t undervalue the things you do. And don’t undervalue the things other people do, too. We’re all social beings. We rely on each other to get by, so appreciate other people and all that they do, because, without it, we’re worse off.
6) He Has Found Himself and Has Clear Values
Knowing his boundaries is a sure indicator of a man who is confident in his individuality and understands his value.
He clearly understands appropriate conduct, how he prefers to be addressed and has the guts to speak up when required.
He has an internal compass of right and wrong, so he doesn’t require outside approval to demonstrate his value.
He’ll exhibit attributes of being a man of principle and a man of his word regardless of personal cost.
He has an internal hierarchy of priorities and will stick to them no matter what.
It also means that he will show great care and love to the people closest to him.
He doesn’t cheat on his girlfriend or wife. He treats everyone with respect and sticks to his promises.
You can be sure that he’ll do everything in his power that aligns with his core values to help you out.
How can you implement this in your life?
Values define who we are. They highlight what we stand for. They make you a unique individual. When we live life according to our values, we experience fulfillment and self-actualization.
To work out your values, ask yourself the following questions, and then write down your answer. You can write it down in a notebook or journal.
1. Imagine yourself at your 90th birthday. What do you want to remembered for?
2. If you suddenly won 50 million dollars, how would you spend the money? What would you do with your time?
3. Who are the people in your life that you admire most? What qualities in them do you aspire to have in yourself?
7) He Pursues a Career That Excites Him
Men who value themselves generally pursue careers that they find fulfilling and exciting.
He doesn’t just work for the buck and treats his work with great respect.
You may find such guys committing themselves to a line of work that is in accordance with their passions.
He may even find doing work in a field he likes more rewarding than traditional jobs, which may inspire him to work with greater vigor.
Professional fulfillment is a critical component of the life of a man who values himself.
He will neither oversell his capabilities nor let anyone take his services for granted.
They will speak their mind when needed and aren’t afraid to call out people who try to walk over them.
How to implement this into your life:
It’s not easy to change jobs.
But if you’re unfulfilled and dread going to work every day, it might be time to consider a change.
I don’t advise quitting your job without a plan.
But in your free time, perhaps you can work on what might be your next move.
Even if it starts as just a hobby. That’s fine. Eventually, with more experience and knowledge, you might be able to turn that hobby into a job.
8) He Takes Care of His Body, Mind, and Health
A high-value man who values himself will take good care of his body, mind, and health. He will treat them as his assets.
You may find him having a disciplined workout routine and placing a premium on his own health.
He doesn’t do it for the approval of others but sticks to a conscious diet because he respects himself enough to be aware of what he puts inside his body.
He also focuses on his mental health and takes care of it just like the other parts of his life.
He’s aware of how important your mental and emotional health is to everything else in your life.
You can observe that he treats himself like the hero of his story in a physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, and professional sense.
How to implement this into your life:
Valuing yourself starts with your daily habits.
Do you take of your body, your mind, and your needs?
Here are all the ways you can take care of your body and mind:
– Getting 8 hours of sleep every night.
– Eating healthy.
– Exercising regularly
– Expressing gratitude and appreciation to yourself and those around you
– Meditating and reflecting on your life’s direction
– Avoiding vices and toxic influences
9) He Doesn’t Let Anyone Waste His Time
A man who has a great sense of self won’t let anyone waste his time.
He understands the value of time and the amount of work he can get done when used appropriately.
So, if he’s committing a portion of it to someone, he will ensure they are worthy of him investing his time and emotions.
He won’t stand being taken for granted or casually dating someone only in it for themselves.
A man who knows his worth won’t spend time dwelling on the negative things in life because he has accepted them as an inevitable side of existence.
He will devote his time to finding solutions rather than wasting his time on self-pity.
How to implement this into your life:
Focus on being productive. Ask yourself if this activity or task will take you forward.
Ignore all the things that don’t matter.
The way I do this is I make sure to set manageable daily, weekly, and monthly goals.
Setting goals gives you a specific point to focus your energy and attention.
By mapping out a plan and sticking to a daily routine, you also ensure that you’re making improvements and getting closer to your goals.
James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, explains how consistent, minor improvements turn into something meaningful in the long run:
“Meanwhile, improving by 1 percent isn’t particularly notable—sometimes it isn’t even noticeable—but it can be far more meaningful, especially in the long run. The difference a tiny improvement can make over time is astounding. Here’s how the math works out: if you can get 1 percent better each day for one year, you’ll end up thirty-seven times better by the time you’re done. Conversely, if you get 1 percent worse each day for one year, you’ll decline nearly down to zero. What starts as a small win or a minor setback accumulates into something much more.”
10) He Can Take Healthy Doses of Criticism Without Being Taken for Granted
A man who isn’t insecure and is confident in himself will be able to take healthy doses of criticism without getting emotional.
He understands that there’s always room for growth and personal improvement.
You may even find him seeking our purveyors of constructive criticism, valuable advice, and other people who can help him become emotionally intelligent.
This also means that he will take up any form of responsibility with a sense of pride.
He won’t let his pride cloud his judgment but will instead take the input he’s given to produce immaculate work the next time.
That being said, if he thinks you’re being overly critical or nitpicky, he will let you know.
How to implement this into your life:
Embrace mistakes and criticism. Learn from them. Stop blaming others and take responsibility for your actions.
Successful people are successful because they make mistakes and learn from their failures.
In fact, according to Shane Snow, bestselling author of Smartcuts: How Hackers, Innovators, and Icons Accelerate Success experts vastly prefer negative feedback to positive feedback because this spurs the most improvement.
“The research showed that experts—people who were masters at a trade—vastly preferred negative feedback to positive. It spurred the most improvement. That was because criticism is generally more actionable than compliments.”
My advice is to stop avoiding mistakes or failures. Stop calling them mistakes and failures. Instead, see them as learning opportunities.
If you do this, you’ll allow yourself to improve and make positive gains in life.