Want to feel really confident?
It’s not about acting tough or showing off.
True confidence starts from inside you.
But some bad habits might be holding you back.
In this article, we’ll talk about seven things you should stop doing if you want to be truly confident.
Ditch these habits and you’ll feel like a new man.
Let’s get started.
1. Constantly Seeking Approval
We all like a pat on the back or a thumbs-up emoji from our buddies.
But if you find yourself always fishing for compliments or asking for others’ opinions before making a decision, you’re giving away your power.
And guess what? That’s not how a confident man rolls.
A truly confident guy trusts himself.
He knows he’s not perfect, but he doesn’t wait for someone else to tell him he’s good enough.
If this sounds like you, it’s time to stop.
Next time you’re about to seek approval, take a step back.
Ask yourself, “What do I think?” Trust your gut, make your move, and own it—good or bad.
2. Over-Apologizing for Everything
Now, don’t get me wrong—saying sorry when you’ve actually messed up is a good thing.
It shows you’re mature and can admit when you’re wrong. But if you’re saying sorry for every little thing, even when it’s not your fault, you’re selling yourself short.
I used to do this all the time, apologizing even when someone else bumped into me! It’s like you’re saying, “Excuse me for existing.”
When you apologize for no reason, you make yourself seem smaller.
You don’t want to be “that guy” who says sorry so much that the word loses its meaning.
Confident men own their actions, but they also own their space and their right to be wherever they are, doing whatever they’re doing.
Save your sorries for when they truly matter.
3. Always Being the “Nice Guy”
Hold on—before you start thinking I’m telling you to be a jerk, hear me out.
There’s a big difference between being a genuinely good person and being the “Nice Guy” who’s always bending over backwards for everyone else, often at the expense of your own needs or values.
You might think being super accommodating will make people like you more, but it often does the opposite.
People start taking you for granted, and it makes you seem less confident.
Believe it or not, setting boundaries is a sign of self-respect, and people will respect you more for it.
So go ahead, be kind, be considerate, but don’t be a pushover.
You can be a good guy without being the “Nice Guy” who finishes last.
It’s not just good for how others see you; it’s good for how you see yourself.
4. Hiding Your Flaws and Faking Perfection
I know Instagram and movies make it look like every guy has it all together, but that’s a load of bull.
Even the most confident guys have flaws and make mistakes. The difference is, they’re not scared to show it.
We often think that if we show our weaknesses, people will think less of us.
The truth is, owning your flaws makes you relatable and authentic.
Trying to appear perfect all the time is exhausting and, honestly, people can see right through it.
So you’re not a great dancer, or you can’t cook to save your life? Who cares! Own it.
Being real is way more confident than putting on a fake front.
5. Always Being in Control
I get it—life’s chaotic and unpredictable.
And there’s a weird sense of security in believing that if you control everything around you, you’ll be okay.
But the truth is: Trying to control everything is the ultimate illusion.
What’s more, it can actually make you come off as insecure rather than confident.
You might think that being the guy who takes charge all the time shows you’re confident.
But you know what it really shows?
That you’re afraid of what might happen if you let go, even just a little bit.
The truth is, confidence isn’t about having your hand in every pot; it’s about being okay even if things don’t go exactly as planned.
So, take a deep breath and let go a little. You’ll find that the world doesn’t fall apart—and you might even enjoy the ride.
6. Comparing Yourself to Others
Social media has turned life into one big highlight reel, making it easy to fall into the comparison trap.
I’ve been there, scrolling through feeds full of dudes flexing in the gym, showing off their new cars, or posting pictures from exotic vacations, and thinking, “Why can’t that be me?” Sound familiar?
Here’s the deal: That kind of comparison is toxic and it’s killing your confidence.
What you’re seeing is a curated version of someone’s life, not the whole picture.
And you know what?
Even if it was the whole picture, their journey has nothing to do with yours.
Confident men understand that life isn’t a race against anyone but themselves.
Focus on your own growth and accomplishments.
When you catch yourself comparing, remember that everyone has their own battles, their own failures, and their own moments of doubt.
But you won’t see that on Instagram.
7. Avoiding Difficult Conversations and Confrontations
I’ll be the first to admit, confrontation sucks. No one likes those awkward, uncomfortable conversations.
But guess what? Dodging the tough talks isn’t saving you—it’s costing you your confidence.
You can’t claim to be a truly confident man if you’re afraid to speak your truth.
When you avoid conflicts or tough conversations, you’re essentially saying that your feelings, thoughts, or needs aren’t important enough to be heard.
That’s not only unfair to you but also to the people you’re in relationships with, be it friendships, family, or romantic partners.
So, the next time you’re tempted to sweep something under the rug or hold in something that’s bothering you, don’t.
Speak up. It might be uncomfortable, but that discomfort is where growth happens.
Trust me, it’s way better to face it head-on than to let it eat you up inside.