What makes a man open up?
Are you asking yourself this question?
Perhaps you’re dating a guy and you feel like he is too closed.
He reveals nothing about his feelings and you never know what he is truly thinking.
It’s frustrating, but it’s normal for guys to struggle to open up to a woman.
I’m a man, and I always found it difficult to express how I felt to the women I dated.
But everything changed when I met my wife. She was the one who helped me open up and let me express my feelings.
I had a lot of pent-up emotion that was bottled up inside of me, and she was the one who opened me up.
I’m going to share with you 10 tips that I learned from my wife to make men open up.
Let’s dive right in!
1. Be patient and understanding
The first tip is pretty simple: be patient and be understanding.
You need to give him the time he needs to open up because if you don’t, he might not open up at all. You have to give him room to be vulnerable and give him a chance.
It’s okay to express your emotions and share, but make sure that you’re not too pushy or try too hard. You have to be patient with him and understand that this is something that takes time.
My wife never pushed me. She was always patient with me and understanding.
She let me open up slowly and would remind me that she loves me, but she never asked me to tell her everything.
She waited for me until I was ready to open up. It’s important that you listen to your man, and he needs to feel like he is able to self-express.
The main point here is to just be patient with your man. Don’t judge him for not opening up.
Instead, focus on building trust and rapport, and over time, he will become more comfortable expressing himself to you.
2. Be curious about his life
The second one is: be curious about his life.
If you’re interested in the stories of his past and who he is, it will make him feel special.
If he hasn’t been dating for a while, then he might be a humble man who doesn’t have much confidence.
He needs to feel like you care about his lived experiences and not just what you want to hear.
When a guy opens up, he wants someone to listen, to care, and most importantly, pay attention.
He needs to know that what he’s telling you matters. So make sure that you ask questions with an open mind and genuine curiosity.
I had low self-esteem when I met my wife and I thought that no one would be interested in my life story.
So when my wife showed genuine curiosity in my life, I was over the moon!
She cared enough to ask me what was going on, and she really wanted to know about who I am. She truly wanted to know me.
So when I opened up, it made me feel special and it made me feel like she really cared about me. And as a result, I now open up more than ever!
3. Initiate, initiate, and initiate
The third tip is to initiate.
Now you might think this is a strange tip after I told you to be patient.
But there is a reason this tip comes after being patient. Yes, you shouldn’t push him. You need to give him space.
But this doesn’t mean you can’t initiate other types of conversations in subtle ways. You can talk about his interests or his passions.
You can talk about things that he’s never told you and ask him questions to get him talking. You might be surprised by how much he is willing to share with you!
So let’s say your guy is a big football fanatic, and you don’t know anything about it. Well, even though you are a lady, you should not be afraid to initiate a conversation about this topic.
Be curious and ask him questions about his favorite team. Show him that you care and that you’re interested in his passions.
You cannot force a man to open up, but at the same time, don’t be afraid to make the first move.
Maybe your man loves reading books on his free time and opening up about what he’s reading can inspire him to share more in the relationship.
This relates to being curious about his life. If you get him talking about his passions, this will build rapport, and over time, you’ll start talking about what you really want to talk about:
Your feelings for each other.
So don’t be afraid to initiate conversation about what he loves. Be interested and show that you’re paying attention, and over time, he’ll begin to trust you more and more. One day he’ll open up!
4. Do not criticize his past or his life choices
The next tip is: do not criticize his past or his life choices. This tip is pretty common sense right?
Well, it’s easy to forget sometimes when you’re working hard to build a relationship with your man.
But you need to remember that you’re a woman and he’s a man. You should not be criticizing his past or what he did in the past.
He may have been disrespected by a woman in a relationship and found it difficult to recover.
Or even if he did something bad, he will never open up if you insult him for it. Criticizing him only pushes him away.
So if your man tells you about his past mistakes, don’t criticize him for it. Instead, be understanding and listen to his story. Show that you’re sorry that he’s been hurt in the past.
And most importantly, show him love by letting him know that you appreciate his honesty and loyalty.
Don’t criticize or criticize his past mistakes. Instead, be compassionate and show that you care. Most importantly, remind him of how much he means to you.
This is one of the main reasons I felt/feel comfortable around my wife. She never judged me for my mistakes and made me feel like she truly cared about the things I had to say.
She showed her love for me by being patient, understanding, and caring about my past.
So when I opened up, she didn’t judge me or criticize. Instead, she listened to everything I had to say and expressed her love for me by encouraging me to share more of myself with her.
5. Be yourself
One of the most important tips to take from this article: be yourself.
It’s important that you’re authentic and that you never try too hard to make him feel special or show him what he wants to see.
This is especially important if you want him to open up more and share more of his life with you.
You need to remind yourself that dating your man will not be easy.
He might not open up easily, and he might be afraid of putting himself out there for other people. He might be so used to hiding from the world that he’s scared of having his true self revealed.
A common problem is that women want to be their perfect selves around their men. I had a girlfriend who always wanted to be the perfect girlfriend, and in the end, it just got tiring.
I never actually got to know her for who she truly was, so our relationship didn’t go anywhere.
It’s important that you don’t try too hard, and instead, just be yourself. If he can’t see the real you, then he will never open up.
So do not try to be something that you’re not. He doesn’t need to know your perfect GPA or how many people you’ve dated.
He just needs to know who you are, and as long as you present yourself in a gentle and respectful way, he’ll be able to relate with you.
6. Ask him questions that spark a conversation
The next tip I want to give you is to ask questions. This can be hard, especially when you are taking in so much of your man’s life as a listener.
But what you need to realize is this: he probably doesn’t feel comfortable just talking about himself.
You need to help him get out of his comfort zone and open up by asking him these questions about himself.
But remember, he might not feel comfortable sharing these deep thoughts with you yet. So ask him questions that spark a conversation.
You can even talk about things that he loves. So it doesn’t necessarily have to be about his past, but remember to make it interesting!
You don’t necessarily want to ask him questions like, “What’s your favorite movie?” or “How was your day?”
Those questions are boring and don’t provide any opportunity for opening up. Instead, I would suggest questions like, “What are your personal goals?”or “Who is your role model and why?”
Ask questions that show that you’re paying attention. Ask questions that get him talking.
Some more examples:
“What was your favorite memory in high school?” You can ask something like this to get a conversation going about his past.
“What is it about your job or industry that excites you the most?” I mean, this is a question where you can learn about him and his passions for the future. “What is your favorite guilty pleasure?”
If you’re dating a man and you want him to open up, asking him questions like this can show that you’re interested in who he is as a person and that you’re not afraid to talk about his passions.
“When was the last time you felt lonely?” This is something that most people will find hard to answer right away. Asking this question might help him open up about his loneliness, if he’s ever felt it.
Be careful with deep questions like that though. You need to make sure you’ve built enough trust and rapport.
7. Ask him for advice on something he is good at
This is an excellent piece of advice in general if you want to build a connection with someone.
Figure out what your man is good at and ask him for advice on it! Everybody loves giving advice. It makes them feel helpful and increases their self-esteem.
I have run marathons before, and my wife and I started running together, so she asked me all sorts of questions about running to help her improve.
This really increased the connection between us. It helped us both feel like we were building a relationship, and it gave me some security and made me feel like she really was interested in who I was as a person.
So remember this advice if you want to help your man open up. Figure out what he is good at, and then ask him for advice on that topic!
8. Make him feel appreciated
The next tip I want to give you is to make him feel appreciated.
This is an extremely important part of opening up and being able to share your past experiences with someone.
You need to remind your man how much he means to you and show how you appreciate his personality and the things that he does for you.
Men often don’t know how appreciated they are by the people in their life, so remind him that he’s wanted and needed by showing your appreciation for him.
He’ll start to feel more loved and wanted and will then be more open about sharing his life with you.
9. Be a good listener and don’t interrupt him
The 9th for helping your man open up is to be a good listener. We men sometimes need to let out all of our thoughts, even if they seem unrelated or boring to you.
We need it to feel better and get things off of our chest. So it is important that you don’t interrupt him.
Listen to his every word and make sure that he knows you are there for him.
That way he will feel comfortable opening up even more. It’s an excellent way to bond with your man and for the two of you to get to know each other on a deeper level.
When my wife helped me open up, it took our relationship to a whole new level. So remember to be a good listener, and while you’re at it, let him know that you appreciate and respect him and he will open up more.
10. Treat him like a hero
Another great way to open up your man is by treating him like a hero. This can be in many different ways, but it is a great way to show that you admire him and love him. It’s an excellent way to connect with your man.
I am definitely not saying that you need to buy him gifts or put his name in lights or anything like that.
What I mean is that you can show your appreciation for all of the things that he does for you through it.
When my wife helped me open up, she did this by letting me know how proud she was of me and how happy she was with our new relationship.
A lot of guys just want to hear that they are appreciated and that they are loved, so make sure to let them know how much they mean to you.
These are simple and effective ways to help your man open up to you and tell you his deepest, darkest secrets.
You don’t have to wait ten years of marriage or even a year of dating before implementing these tips into your relationship.
When done correctly, these tips can help you build a much deeper relationship with your man. As long as you keep in mind the importance of building a relationship from the very beginning, your man will eventually open up and begin sharing his life with you.