What to talk about with girls? 10 topics to get the conversation flowing

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What to talk about with girls? 10 topics to get the conversation flowing

If you struggle with finding things to talk to girls about, you are not alone.

Many young men and older men alike find it challenging to keep the conversation flowing with women, particularly if it is a new relationship, a girl you’ve just met, or that special woman you have a crush on.

Fear not, however, today I will give you 10 things that you can talk to girls about. As a bonus, I will also give you a few tips that have helped me become a better conversationalist with women over the years!

This is not an exhaustive list but rather a starting point from which you can dive deeper into specific topics that interest you both.

These topics can help reveal where you should take the conversation next and will allow you to get to know that special girl better.

Before we begin, however, here are a few tips to make sure you are on the right path no matter what subject you are discussing.

5 quick tips for talking to girls

Tip #1 Girls want to be heard

Many young men in particular want to speak a lot. Often due to nerves, they feel the need to say a lot in order to appear confident (notice I said appear).

They spend all the time talking or thinking of what they will say next. So much so that they forget to listen. This leads to an unnatural conversation and the girl will know you are not paying full attention.

Listen carefully, respond thoughtfully, and say only what you need to rather than repeating yourself or rambling off topic to avoid potential silence.

Tip #2 It’s not an interview

Also often because of nerves, men who are nervous speaking to women want to be prepared. With this in mind, they have a set list of questions in the back of their mind.

Often, they try to remember and get through these questions rather than giving thoughtful responses or offering an opinion of their own.

It is not an interview. Give her the opportunity to ask you some questions and offer your views so that she can get to know you too.

Tip #3 It’s not a competition

It’s no secret that men are competitive.

Sadly, young men often talk over each other in an effort to get their point across.

This is as true in social situations as it is in professional environments.

While we are not here to talk about man-to-man communication today, know that this sort of behavior won’t help you when having a conversation with women.

Most women want to be heard and they don’t want to have to fight with you for airtime!

10 great topics to get the conversation flowing

As mentioned previously, these topics are not the only things you can talk about but are a great way to learn more about that special someone and to lead the conversation into areas that you both enjoy discussing and are passionate about.

01 Food & Drink

We all eat and drink! The topic of food and drink is never off-limits.

It’s one of the most natural desires for humans.

From great restaurants to good recipes, you can talk about it all.

If the girl you are talking to has a favorite dish or favorite place, ask her about it.

Ask her if she remembers the first time she had it. Ask what kind of food they make on a certain kind of holiday.

02 Travel

Travel is a great conversation topic for girls that you don’t know very well.

It’s not too personal, most people have some interest in traveling, it usually involves happy memories and it can reveal a lot about a person’s personality and motivations.

It’s also a great natural segway into other topics that interest you both.

You can ask her about her favorite place to go.

Ask where she wants to see the most and see if she has any tips on a good place to visit.

You can ask her what places she wants to see in the future.

03 Movies & TV

Most girls love to talk about TV shows, movies, and celebrities.

They also like to hear what you think of movies and TV shows you have seen, so ask her what she thinks of the most recent episode of your favorite show.

Or you can talk about films you have watched together and try to find some common ground in your tastes.

04 Hobbies & Interests

While it might seem very obvious, hobbies and interests are a great topic to talk to girls about.

General questions are a good way to start but it’s also a good way to find common ground and dive deeper into that.

You can talk to her about her favorite hobby or interest she enjoys. If she has the same interest as you, you can find a lot of common ground.

05 Current Events

Current events are generally an easy and interesting conversation topic for girls.

It’s constantly changing and it usually doesn’t take many words to figure out if someone is interested or not.

It’s sometimes a subject of controversy which can reveal a lot and create some passion and interest. However, do be sensitive not to offend her in this.

Topics like politics and social issues such as feminism can be tricky and cause emotion. Quite understandably, some women will not feel comfortable revealing their opinions on such matters initially.

We would recommend keeping it causal, to begin with, and not pushing an issue she doesn’t seem comfortable discussing.

You can ask her what she thinks of some of the latest news stories, celebrity gossip, and current events around the world.

As with all these topics, it’s not an interview or an interrogation so don’t forget to share your views to make her feel more comfortable.

06 Friends & Family

Friends and family are a great way to get to know someone.

It’s an easier conversation topic for girls that you don’t know very well but can still be fun.

You can ask her how her day was, what she did and who she saw. You can also ask about her friends by name or about her family in general.

07 Music

Music is another great topic to talk about with a new girl or old one.

You can talk about her favorite band and how you listen to the same particular act.

Or ask what she thinks of the latest album.

You can also ask about her first concert and how it made her feel afterward, or if she’s ever been to a concert before.

08 The Future

The future is a very interesting topic.

People have a love/hate relationship with it because it’s exciting and worrying.

It’s one of the most important parts of life, but this usually means there are some big changes around the corner.

You can talk to her about what plans she has for her future or where she wants to be in 5 or 10 years’ time.

You can ask her about how she would like to change things and how she plans to achieve these goals.

09 Work and Career

It’s what most of us spend a lot of our days doing so it’s no surprise that the topic is on this list. You will find that many women are passionate about their careers and interested in telling you about it.

Keep in mind, however, that it is not the only topic you should talk about. Often young men tend to be very career-focused, which can be good, but it is not the only thing you should talk about.

You can ask her what she likes or doesn’t like about work, what kind of job she has and how she got it.

You can also ask her if there are any particular things that annoy her or make her laugh at work, especially when something goes wrong or if people seem to be in trouble.

While it is important, we would not recommend talking about money at the beginning.

It can be very awkward.

If you feel it’s necessary, ask her about it later and don’t introduce the topic first.

This might keep a little bit of mystery, which is one of the best ways to build attraction.

10 Pets

This one is a little less general. Some girls won’t have pets and some might not even like animals.

However, if that special girl has some pets, you can bet she will love to talk about them!

If you have a pet or she has a pet, ask her what they are like or how they act.

Ask her if she’s ever had one and tell her stories about yours.

To Conclude

…that’s it for today fellas.

I hope you found this helpful. I don’t claim to be an expert in speaking to women but rather hope that my experiences can help other young men improve as I have.

If you have any other tips or topics for speaking to women, it would be great if you could share them with other readers in the comments section below!


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