Mal James

Mal is a blogger, entrepreneur, and teacher who is based in Vietnam. Knowing how difficult it can be for young men today, he helps them learn about manhood using his personal experiences, both his failures and his successes. Mal is always looking to help men through his posts on The Considered Man. When he has free time, he enjoys playing golf, working out, and traveling.

These 7 simple habits have made me happier and more productive; they might help you too

These 7 simple habits have made me happier and more productive; they might help you too

Have you ever wondered if there’s a simple ‘secret’ to being happier and more productive? Well, I have. I am always wondering.  While I am far from perfect, through reading, and guidance from mentors, I’ve found a few habits that have been game-changers for me. I wouldn’t call them ‘secrets’ but they have been instrumental …

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5 surprising habits of highly-resilient people

5 surprising habits of highly-resilient people

Resilience. It’s that gritty, get-back-up-again quality that self-help gurus and motivational posters won’t shut up about. But while the world is busy fetishizing the idea of mental toughness, the truly resilient folks are out there quietly getting on with it. They’re not necessarily the loudest in the room or the most obvious success stories—they’re the …

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12 Phrases That Make You Sound Weak (And What to Say Instead)

12 Phrases That Make You Sound Weak (And What to Say Instead)

Words aren’t just words; they shape how the world sees us and, more importantly, how we see ourselves. I’ve been fortunate enough to be guided by a few incredible mentors, each of them uber-successful in their respective fields. One common thread that struck me about these leaders? They always spoke with conviction and unwavering confidence. …

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8 Signs You Are Too Much of a "Nice Guy" (And How to Deal With It)

5 Signs You Are Too Much of a “Nice Guy” (And How to Deal With It)

Said “yes” when every fiber of your being wanted to shout “no”? Or perhaps you’ve been the ever-patient listener, nodding along even when your time and patience were stretched thin? Ah, the classic “nice guy” syndrome. There’s nothing wrong with being kind, considerate, and respectful but let’s face it, many of us men have had …

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13 things every man should do before 30 (if he wants to foster real success)

8 things every man should do before 30 (for real success)

Life’s a wild ride, isn’t it? One minute you’re learning to shave without butchering your face, and the next, you’re grappling with existential dread as the big 3-0 approaches. The world will shove countless “shoulds” down your throat — what success looks like, what milestones you should’ve hit by now, blah, blah, blah. But let’s …

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These 8 things make us miserable, according to ancient philosophers

These 5 things make us miserable, according to ancient philosophers

In our constant search for joy, comfort, and purpose, we often find ourselves pulled by the allure of what’s new—gadgets, trends, benchmarks of success. But amid the noise of the present, it’s easy to overlook that the core challenges we face have been tackled by generations before us. Age-old scripts, stone tablets, and traditions carry …

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I regain clarity & purpose by asking myself these 6 questions (you can too)

I regain clarity & purpose by asking myself these 6 questions (you can too)

Navigating our busy lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind and lose sight of what truly matters. I’ve been there, especially juggling roles as a writer and business owner. However, a clear path emerges when I ask myself these eight questions.  If you’re feeling lost, stay with me. These simple prompts could …

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