Do you feel like girls act weird around you?
Or like they rarely want to engage in conversation with you?
It can be a tough pill to swallow when you’re trying your hardest to give off a positive impression.
But the truth is:
Because you’re trying hard, you may unintentionally come across as a creep.
If you do any of the below things, then it’s a good chance that girls are unattracted to you because you’re acting like a creep.
1. You’re too direct when you approach girls
You’re at a loss. You have no idea how to approach girls. So you think to yourself, “I know what I’ll do. I’ll just go up to that girl and introduce myself.”
So you walk directly to her, looking intense with your body fully facing hers and you introduce yourself, smiling like crazy and holding out your hand for her to shake it.
After all that, she doesn’t even want to shake your hand.
Because you’re being too forward and overbearing. She’ll just feel threatened.
Here’s how to approach girls effectively:
Don’t face your body directly at them. That’s just intimidating and creepy. When you approach them, make sure to turn your body away from them as if you’re going to leave.
This will be much less threatening for them and it will make them feel comfortable.
Next, say “I gotta get back to my friends real quick, but can I just ask your opinion on something?”
“Sure” she will say.
“Is it cheating if a guy still has pictures of his ex on his phone?”
This is a great opener and it’s not hard to see why.
Girls will immediately argue left and right because chances are, they’ve probably dated a guy before who’s done exactly that.
Everyone likes to give their opinion on stuff, particularly girls, and definitely if the question you ask is a good one.
Just make sure to ask their opinion on something interesting. This will open up a conversation.
Best of all?
You won’t appear creepy! You’ll look like a normal, interesting guy that is able to hold a conversation with a female.
2. You’re too touchy
Some guys think that touch is a great way to build rapport and get closer to a girl.
Touching her on the arm, shoulder, or back may make you feel like you’re building better connections with the girl.
But in reality, it’s doing the complete opposite of what you want it to do.
Touching girls too much makes them uncomfortable and they want you to back off asap. Girls just don’t like being touched by strangers.
If you want to create a connection with a girl, then try talking to them about something interesting for a couple of minutes.
And then, give her your number and ask for hers in return.
This will display more confidence from you because it shows that you’re not out to “get her” but rather that you are genuinely interested in getting to know her as a person.
After that, text her later on with a call to action. For example: “Hey, I had fun talking to you this afternoon at the coffee shop. Want to hang out this week sometime?”
This creates a connection with her by showing that you aren’t needy and desperate but rather you’re a man who takes action and makes things happen.
3. You’re too eager to please
There’s a pretty fine line between being polite and being a pushover.
Being a pushover makes you look like a creep because you’re too eager to please.
You need to show some backbone and be your own man first before trying to create any form of connection with a girl.
Don’t agree to everything if you don’t actually agree. Don’t let her push you around and control you.
This is what happens to “nice guys”. They’re so scared of being rejected, that they end up doing whatever girls ask of them.
They start to believe that girls want them and think it’s cute when you’re doing stuff for them – as if all girls like clingy, needy boys.
It’s not a good look at all. Girls can see right through this kind of trait, so it’s best to just not give it away.
The last thing you want is to be some pushover who can’t say “no” or who can’t make plans and organize things.
Message the girl you like now and make a plan to have dinner with her at a nice restaurant.
The more you do this, the more natural it will be for you to take control and organize romantic dates. Girls will love that, because that love a man that leads and takes control.
4. You’re too quiet
If you want to create a connection with a girl, then it’s okay to actually converse with them if you have something interesting to say.
Don’t be shy and don’t be silent just because she’s talking. If you have anything interesting to say, then say it!
When girls are talking, they usually give you 3-5 seconds of attention before they zone out or start daydreaming or doing something different on their phone. Don’t be like that.
Instead of being silent, try saying something interesting or unique. For example:
“Hey, I had a dream about you last night.” …and then follow it up with an extremely interesting, memorable anecdote from your dream to keep the conversation going!
Prepare what you’re going to say beforehand and make it interesting! Being a great storyteller will take you many places in life, and not just with women.
If that doesn’t work, then try asking her questions about something interesting.
To get started, ask her about something she does for a living. This will open up a whole new line of conversation and make her feel comfortable in your presence.
If you want to avoid coming off as a creep, you need to be a great conversationalist. No awkward silence. No weird chit-chat. Just ask her questions and engage her in conversation.
5. You’re too much of a guy’s girl
Most guys feel that being a “good guy” is the best way to get girls. They think if they’re “nice”, girls will like them more and want to be with them instead of their bad-boy friends.
In reality, this just isn’t true and it can actually come off as creepy and desperate for girls.
Furthermore, you have to remember that women are attracted to strong and confident men.
So instead of being a “good guy”, try being more of an alpha male. Women love leaders and men who take charge.
Think about it – girls love bad boys because they know they have a powerful personality and they can dominate them.
And don’t get me wrong, you’re allowed to be friendly as a man but that’s not the same thing as being needy.
How can you bring out the alpha in you? One word: Confidence.
Confidence comes with age and experience. As you get older, you will learn how to conduct yourself in social situations and how to act around girls.
Confidence also comes with being able to read female body language and signals. It’s all about calibrating your behavior based on her reactions.
To get confident, you need to fake it till you make it. Act like you’re the man and women will turn around and see that you really are.
6. You’re too much of a punk
Being too much of a punk can be a double-edge sword.
You need to be yourself when you meet girls but at the same time, you need to act like a man who doesn’t take no for an answer.
The problem with being too much of a punk is that it can come off as rude. But what if you’re just real and honest?
I’ll use myself as an example: I can be a badass jock, but at the same time, I’m also a nice guy who respects women.
Girls find me interesting because I don’t take no for an answer. They want to go out with me because I’m confident and not afraid to express my manly side.
This makes them want to get to know me more because they know that I’m loyal and independent.
But I’m also not rude or disrespectful. I’m not a punk.
You need to know the boundaries and know how to act around a girl if you want to be more like a decent guy.
7. You’re not comfortable in your own skin
One of the best ways to show girls that you care about them, is by being confident in your own skin and being able to accept yourself.
Confidence is attractive and attractive women know what guys who are confident look like when they walk up to them.
But if you’re not comfortable in who you are, then you might be coming across a creep.
Maybe you’ve never had a girlfriend at 30, so it’s difficult for you to get comfortable around women.
But if you’re uncomfortable in your own skin, then it’s a red flag, and she’ll know that you’re not yourself.
This is because she can sense your uneasiness, which makes her feel uneasy in return.
And if you’re coming off as creepy to her, then you can bet that she’ll ignore you for the rest of the day or even move on to the next available guy!
So how do fix this? First, you need to accept who you are. If you’re a big, buff guy, then be proud of it. If you’re a more sensitive guy, then show that to the girls!
Don’t hold back who you are for the sake of impressing others.
If you’re an introvert and not confident in social situations, then make an effort to overcome your fears.
Introvert and not being confident don’t go hand in hand!
Introverts can sometimes be excellent socializers because they think more deeply than others and know what to say at the right time.
Turn your so-called weaknesses into strengths.
For example, I am used to be a very shy guy because I’m skinny and I don’t look very manly. But I decided to overcome my shyness and learn how to talk to girls because I wanted to be more successful in life. I stopped focusing on my physical appearance and instead, focused on my personality.
Because I completely accepted that I was ugly, I just didn’t care what other people thought or said about me.
This confidence and forthrightness eventually led me to become more attractive in the eyes of females.
Trust me when I say:
Girls much prefer a man that is comfortable in his own skin and confident in himself than they do an attractive man that is trying to be someone he is not.
The main point is to accept yourself and have healthy self-esteem. It will take you far in life and it’ll help you get the girl of your dreams!
8. You’re not a great conversationalist
Being a great conversationalist is one of the most important things in life.
The ability to talk to anyone, even if you don’t know them, and have meaningful conversations.
If you can’t talk to girls, then you won’t be able to get them in the first place.
Being able to talk with girls is more than just having good conversation skills. It’s about being yourself around girls and feeling comfortable in your own skin.
To become a better conversationalist, you need to develop the ability to talk to girls easily. Don’t be nervous or afraid to express yourself around women.
Practice and lots of it!
Approach girls at bars with indirect openers like I showed you earlier in this article. Don’t care about rejection! Make sure you have confidence in yourself and then you can talk to anyone.
And the solution to overcoming rejection is simple: just keep talking and smiling. Don’t worry about the outcome of your conversations. The thing is, people care more about how they appear themselves than worrying about you appear.
Stop focusing on yourself and worrying about how you feel. Push through shyness and nervousness and just talk to girls. The more practice, the better you’ll be and less you’ll come off as creepy.
9. You feel inferior to the attractive guys around you
I’ve always struggled with this one myself and felt like I can’t compete with the tall, good-looking guys that were my friends back in college.
I always thought the girls that I liked were chatting to other guys at the same time and she’ll probably pick one of them over me.
If this has happened to you, then there are a few things that you can do to improve your self-esteem.
The first thing is not comparing yourself and beating yourself up over everything. The more you compare yourself, the more you will hate yourself. So focus on being a better version of yourself and stop comparing yourself to others.
It’s not healthy to compare yourself to the guy next to you because you’re never going to be him. You’re always going to be you and should be proud of who you are!
Everyone’s circumstances are different! You can never fairly compare yourself to anyone!
This took a long time for me to figure out, but once I did, I began to develop better self-esteem.
If you feel inferior, then stop thinking about it. Assess what you need to work on or improve. And then just work on yourself. Focus on improving yourself and then you’ll be able to compete with the guys around you.
10. You look unkept
Guys that look unkept stand out as weirdos or creeper-types to girls.
Girls don’t like guys who look disheveled and messy, because it’s pretty obvious that they have no respect for themselves.
The thing is guys don’t need to be as neat or clean as girls. You don’t have to wear makeup or buy expensive clothes.
All you have to do is make sure you have some simple clothes that actually fit you! It’s so crucial. Girls don’t like guys that wear baggy jeans and a baggy t-shirt. It just looks bad.
Just make sure your jeans and t-shirt, or even better, a shirt, actually fit your body.
Furthermore, trim your beard, get a haircut and wash your face!
This is a simple fix that can turn anything unkept into a real man.
Just get yourself a haircut, learn how to shave and clean up every day.
It might seem like you’re at the bottom of the social ladder, but you’ll stand out to girls when you actually take care of yourself!