Are you really into a girl?
But you have an inkling that she thinks you’re not interested in her?
It sucks when this happens, but we’re here to help you.
In this article, we’ll go over 19 signs that she thinks you don’t like her and what you can do about it.
1. You don’t make eye contact with her
If you’re talking to a girl and you don’t look directly at her, she will interpret that as a sign that you’re not interested in her.
Eye contact is one of the first signs that a girl will look at to determine whether or not someone is into her.
In fact, according to Dr Christian Jarrett in an article she wrote on the BBC, eye contact creates an intense intimacy that “perhaps is the closest you will come to ‘touching brains’ – or touching souls.”
If you really want to let her know that you like her, then you need to maintain eye contact with her when she looks over at you. It’s essential. Just make sure it’s not longer than 9 seconds – Jarrett says eye contact for longer than 9 seconds make people uncomfortable.
In this case, if you’re not looking at her, you’re making it harder for her to know whether you like her or not.
If a girl has a crush on you and she sees you looking somewhere else, she’ll think that you’re clearly not into her, and it’ll be all downhill from there.
2. You never compliment her
Compliments are a great way to get someone’s attention and show that you’re into them.
At the same time, compliments are easy for women to give, but hard for men to give.
This is why it can be difficult for a girl to know a gentleman likes her.
You probably don’t want to be desperate, so you avoid complimenting her, but this can be a bad mistake.
Girls want to know that you think they are attractive so that they can feel confident in their own image.
If you’re into a girl, but you’re putting off the idea that you like her through your words and actions, she’ll assume that you don’t consider her attractive.
However, if you actually compliment her more than once, she’ll realize that there’s something special about her, and it’s easier for her to feel confident around you.
Keep in mind you don’t have to compliment her body or tell her she is beautiful. You can be more subtle and compliment her sense of style or her positive energy.
3. You’re too self-centered.
If you’re too concerned about your own physical appearance, she might think that you don’t like her because of it.
If a girl says that you have a great body, but you’re not hitting on her, she’ll wonder what’s up.
If she says that you have a nice smile, but you’re giving off the vibe that it’s no big deal to you, she’ll think the same thing.
Remember, according to several studies, it has been found that men tend to over-perceive women’s sexual interest while women tend to have a tendency to be skeptical of men’s commitment intentions.
So you need to take your focus off yourself and make sure you’re signalling your interest to your woman. Otherwise, she will be skeptical about it.
Perhaps you’re a little self-conscious and feel weird showing affection to a girl, but you should be more concerned about how you make the girl feel.
Don’t be concerned about how you feel or how you appear to others.
Focus on communicating with the girl you like on a deeper level.
4. You always make plans with other girls
This is a big red flag!
A girl may think that you’re not into her if she sees that you’re always making plans with other girls.
Perhaps these girls are just your friends, but women tend to be very sensitive about this stuff. She probably doesn’t want other girls to have you.
This is why she is suddenly acting weird.
If you have a bunch of other girls in your life, it’s quite likely that one of them will assume that she will be something more to you than just a friend or acquaintance.
And if you don’t make plans with the girl you’re interested in, then it’s no wonder she thinks that you don’t like her.
5. You only talk about negative stuff
Girls want to be around guys who are positive and who will lift them up.
If you’re constantly talking about how much life sucks and how bad everything is, she might wonder why she isn’t on your mind enough to make you happy.
Also, she will assume that you’re not even trying to impress her.
If you’re not putting in the effort to be positive and happy, why should she put in the effort to get to know you?
6. You’re awkward around her
Sometimes when you like a girl, your body will subconsciously show that you don’t want to be around her.
This is because you’re feeling nervous, and nobody likes feeling nervous. If you’re walking funny or you’re fumbling a lot of words when you talk to her, she’ll most likely start to think that you don’t like her.
According to Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. in Psychology Today, “when someone is interested in you, they tend to have open and forward body language.”
If you’re feeling nervous and awkward, you may forget to present these body language signals.
Make sure to be aware of your body, try to get comfortable and just let your body relax around her.
If you’re comfortable around her and present yourself in the way that you want people to see you, she’ll definitely think that there’s something special about you.
So try to calm yourself down and show her that you’re relaxed around her and
7. You don’t ask her out
If there’s a girl that you would like to pursue a relationship with, then it’s better to ask her out as soon as possible.
If you wait too long, she may assume that you’re not into her.
So if the chance comes up to ask her out, make sure you do it, so you can avoid a future problem.
The truth is:
If you never ask her out, then she’ll think that you’re not into her.
So if you don’t want her to think that, then it’s your responsibility to ask her out.
8. You talk to her like she’s just a friend
If a girl wants something more than friendship from a guy, then she may start to wonder why he can’t see that side of him.
She may also start to wonder whether she actually stands a chance with you, or whether you’re worth her time and effort.
For example, perhaps you’re treating her like “one of the boys” and talking about sports and all the other stuff that you do with your guy friends.
But this is probably not the vibe that she’s looking for! She wants to feel like she’s something special, not just a friend among many.
So make sure you talk to her differently than you talk to your other friends, and treat her differently too.
9. You’re a flirt
If you flirt around with other girls in front of her, then she may think you’re just a player, and you don’t have genuine feelings for her.
Even if it’s just a harmless joke, she’ll probably get the wrong idea and start to wonder if this means that you’re not into her.
If you like her, don’t be afraid to flirt with her too! It doesn’t have to be anything serious or sexual as long as there is chemistry between the two of you.
And make sure to avoid flirting with other girls in front of her!
10. You give her one-word answers
One of the most annoying things that you can do, is giving a one-word answer when she asks you something.
If she asks, “Are you ready yet?” And you just say, “Yeah,” this means that you don’t really care and you don’t want to go out with her. If she asks, “Where are we going?” And you just say, “Out,” this means that you don’t care and you don’t want to go out with her.
And if she asks, “What are you thinking about?” And you just say, “Nothing,” this means that you don’t care and you don’t want to go out with her.
Questions like these are good opportunities for both of you to open up a little bit more and build attraction between the two of you.
11. You’re really busy
If you’re always busy and barely have time to hang out with her, then she’ll think you don’t like her.
It shows that you’re not a priority for her, and this makes her feel like maybe you’re not worth her time.
If she’s important to you, then make sure you give her your attention and spend time with her.
12. You don’t laugh at her jokes
Laughing is a sign of how interested you are in what she has to say to you, and how much she interests you.
If she cracks a joke and no laughter follows, she’ll feel pretty bad about herself and might give up on trying to impress you.
And if you’re the one who doesn’t get her jokes and gets embarrassed, then she’ll think you don’t like her.
So make sure to laugh at her jokes and let her know that you enjoy being around her!
13. You neglect to pay attention to her
If she’s all over you and you’re not paying any attention to her, it shows that you’re not interested in what she has to say.
This makes her feel insecure, and she may feel like it’s a waste of time to try and impress you.
Being attentive to what she says shows her that you’re interested in her and have a sincere interest in getting to know her better.
So if you’re not paying attention to what she says, then make sure that you stop!
It’s very important to pay attention to what a girl says to you and focus on her every word.
14. You’re too emotionally dependent on your phone
If you have a constant need to be near your phone, it shows that you don’t have anything else to do except to check your device and look at pictures of yourself.
And this makes her feel like she doesn’t matter enough for you, which causes the chance of a romantic relationship between the two of you to decrease significantly.
If you go out with her, and instead of chatting with her, you’re looking at your phone, it’s no wonder she will get the impression that you’re not really interested in her.
So make sure to stay away from your phone, or even better, put your phone in a different room, and focus on building a proper connection with her!
15. You hide your feelings for her
If you like a girl, then don’t be afraid to show it! It’s better to be honest and open than not to show your feelings at all.
Maybe you’re scared of being vulnerable, or you’re afraid of being rejected, so you never show your interest in her.
But the bottom line is this:
If you’re not being honest and open, then she will think that you don’t like her.
But if you are being honest and open, she may start to like you too! Sometimes you need to man up and let a girl know how you feel. If a girl has been wondering whether or not you like her, then it’s vital to be honest with her.
Just bite the bullet and tell her how you feel!
Either she will say that she likes you too, and you will start dating each other, or she will say she doesn’t like you back, and you can move on and find another girl!
16. You’re waiting for her to make the first move
Again, this is a red flag that she probably doesn’t know you’re interested in her. It’s normal for a man to make the first move.
So if you’re waiting for her to make the first move, you may never know whether or not she likes you because this means that there will be no advances.
Most guys don’t take action and they hope that the girls will come and make the first move, but this doesn’t work. So, if you like a girl, then go up and talk to her!
This will show her that you’re interested in her.
If she says no and doesn’t want to date you, then fine, move on and find another girl who might be interested in you.
17. You don’t seem happy to see her
If you always avoid seeing the girl or act annoyed when she comes near you, it shows that you’re not really interested in spending time with her. And this makes her feel like you don’t like her and that you don’t want to be around her.
When a woman sees that the man she likes is dreading to see her, then she will think that maybe he’s not interested in dating her.
So if you want a girl to think you’re interested in her, then make sure to greet her with a smile and be happy to spend time with her!
Even if you’re feeling nervous, make sure to push through those nerves and keep smiling.
This will give her the impression that you’re interested in her, and she’ll try to get to know you better.
18. You talk about yourself all the time
If you constantly talk about yourself and your own interests, she’ll think you’re only interested in yourself.
She’ll think that you don’t care about her and what she is doing in her life, which means you don’t care about her.
This is a definite turn off for her, and she’ll think that maybe you’re not interested in dating her.
So make sure to ask her plenty of questions in order to find out more about her, and really listen to the answers she gives you.
This will help you connect with her more and make it more likely that you two will date!
19. You talk about your ex
The last thing a woman wants to hear about is your ex-girlfriend.
And if you’re constantly talking about your ex, it makes her feel like you’re not over your ex, and that you’ll never be able to give her the love and attention she needs.
If you still love your ex, then that’s fine, but at least make sure not to get too deep into talking about her.
Instead, talk about the girl you’re trying to impress and find ways to compliment her. Even if she’s not interested in you, she’ll appreciate you for being nice and trying to impress her.
So make sure to keep your ex out of the conversation!
In the end, if you want this girl to know that you like her, you must be honest with her.
Don’t hide your feelings and don’t pretend to be someone else. That will only make her feel insecure about your intentions for being around her, and she may get the idea that you’re not interested in dating her!
If you want to be successful in attracting a woman, you must make sure that she knows that you are interested in her.