Lifestyle

I spent most of my twenties doing everything right by conventional standards, and feeling, underneath all of it, that something was significantly wrong. I had a psychology degree from a good university. I was moving through a corporate career in Melbourne that looked, from the outside, like exactly the kind of trajectory a young man …

The conversation most men avoid having with themselves in their 20s can shape how their 30s feel Read More »

While society sees men in their 30s as giving up on dreams and settling for less, the truth is far more powerful: they’re strategically shedding the exhausting performances and empty pursuits that kept them miserable in their 20s.

After years of exhausting self-improvement and constant self-monitoring, I discovered that the gap between who I was and who I wanted to be vanished the moment I stopped trying to transform myself and simply started making choices aligned with my values.