The ending of a relationship is never easy. Whether it’s a casual fling or your first love, breaking up with someone is difficult.
As much as you don’t want to lose that person in your life, sometimes the only option left is to break up and move on.
Of course, it’s not always easy to know when it may be time go your separate ways.
Keeping that in mind, here are 15 signs it may be time to consider breaking up with your girlfriend.
Before, we get into the signs, keep in mind that these are signs from our own experiences and those close to us.
One sign does not mean that you should immediately call it quits but it can be a good indicator that you need take a step back and reassess your relationship.
Read on to see if any of these statements resonate with you.
01 Your relationship is based on lies and deception.
Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
Relationships are made up of two people. If one of them doesn’t have trust in the other, the relationship will never work.
Of course, trust is a two-way street and in most cases takes time to build up. It’s not always a smooth road. I know, personally, I am slow to trust.
Know that it will take effort and time to build real trust. This is completely normal and no reason to break off an otherwise good relationship.
However, if you find that your relationship is based on lies on deception, it is a different story entirely.
Have you found out that your girlfriend has been lying to you for a long time? Has she been unfaithful to you for a prolonged period? Is your girlfriend constantly telling lies and hiding things from you?
If so, you need to take a step back.
The first step is to figure out why. Is she afraid of judgment? Is there something in her past that causes her to act in such a way?
While it is possible to get through things like this, often, there’s no point in trying to salvage something that has no foundation.
Deception and lies are clear signs you should think about ending things.
02 She is physically abusive.
This one requires little thought and should be pretty obvious but it’s not something often talked about.
If your girlfriend physically abuses you, get out of the relationship immediately.
There, there’s no point in trying to stay in a relationship that causes you mental and physical pain.
Physical abuse is unacceptable from a man or a woman in a relationship no matter who happens to be physically dominant.
03 Your values and life goals are incompatible.
If your values and the life goals you want to achieve are different from your girlfriend’s, it can make for a very difficult time.
Though people’s life goals change, ideally, you should not be with someone who doesn’t share your ideals and goals in life.
If your worldviews are too different from each other, you will always be butting heads. This can be a huge source of tension in your relationship.
What’s worse is that you might end up changing your values and goals just to please your girlfriend.
That’s not healthy at all. If you are in a relationship with your girlfriend, you need to be yourself.
If her values and life goals differ greatly, it may be better for you both to go your seperate ways to avoid the resentment and pain that will likely occur.
04 She is emotionally abusive.
A relationship should be a safe space for both people involved.
If your girlfriend constantly puts you down and makes you feel like crap, it’s simply not okay. Yes, you are a man and you will be expected to be tough but this is no excuse for emotional abuse.
You don’t need to be with someone who constantly puts you down and makes you feel like you’re not good enough.
What makes this even worse is that many men convince themselves that they need to toughen up and endure such abuse.
If your girlfriend is constantly criticizing you and making you feel insecure, it’s probably a good idea to reconsider the relationship.
You don’t need that. You deserve better.
05 She constantly blames you for her own shortcomings.
You will never be happy in a relationship if your girlfriend constantly blames you for her own shortcomings.
What’s worse is that she might start blaming you for everything that goes wrong in your relationship as well. What makes this even worse is that she might not even realize that she’s doing it.
If you feel like she blames you for everything and never takes her own share of responsibility, you need to tackle to the problem head-on.
If everything else is good and you feel the relationship could be great, talk it out politely and calmly. Aim to find out why she does this and how you can solve it together.
If this does not make things better, well, you don’t need that kind of relationship in your life and sadly, it may time to bring it to an end.
06 She doesn’t respect your boundaries.
It’s imperative that both people involved in a relationship respect each other’s boundaries. If your girlfriend disregards your personal boundaries and doesn’t respect you, it is cause for serious concern.
You need to have a partner who respects you and your wishes.
Is your girlfriend is constantly asking for things you don’t want to give her? What if she doesn’t respect your privacy?
If you feel like she’s pushing you to do things you don’t want to do or she’s trying to get information from you that you’re not comfortable sharing, you need to communicate this with her.
This failing, it’s probably time to call it a day.
07 You are constantly fighting with each other.
Okay, let’s get one thing straight, fighting is normal in a relationship. Even the strongest couples have disagreements.
If you are fighting with your girlfriend, that doesn’t mean you should break up with her. That means you two are communicating.
However, if you are constantly fighting with each other, it’s time to reassess your relationship.
What makes this worse is that you are probably fighting over petty things.
If you and your girlfriend fight over silly things that don’t matter, like who has to take out the trash, it’s not a good sign.
Again, communication is key.
If you can’t make things better together, it might be time to part ways.
08 She constantly tries to make you feel jealous.
If your girlfriend is constantly trying to get a jealous reaction out of you, it’s not a positive sign.
She should not try to make you jealous just so she can feel powerful.
Does she act in ways that are designed to make you feel jealous? This is a problem.
Keep in mind that she may not be doing this intentionally and it could be that you are sensitive to it. In this case, you need to work it out between you.
If she intentionally does it to get attention and make you feel powerless and insecure, it’s a different story entirely. You don’t need that negativity and drama in your life.
09 She constantly puts you down in front of friends and family.
If you notice that your girlfriend is constantly putting you down and making you feel like crap in front of your friends, family, and coworkers, it’s a serious issue.
It doesn’t matter if she puts it down to make a joke or not.
You need to address this by talking to her. It could be a bad habit or even something she thinks is funny. It could be malicious.
If it doesn’t get better, be ready to go.
10 You feel pressure to avoid being yourself.
This is quite simple and often not the fault of anyone.
When you are in a relationship with your girlfriend, you should feel comfortable being yourself.
If you feel like she’s trying to change who you are or stop you from doing the things that make you happy, she may be the wrong girl for you.
You need to be yourself in a relationship if it is going to last.
11 She is smotheringly clingy.
A relationship should be comfortable and secure.
If your girlfriend is making you feel like you can’t breathe, the relationship will, well suffocate.
What makes this worse is that some people don’t even realize that they are smothering their partners.
If you feel like she is too clingy, you need to talk it out and if things don’t see an improvement, you may need to consider leaving.
You can learn more about this in our article, 10 Signs You Have A Clingy Girlfriend (And What To Do About It).
12 She threatens to leave you when you have even a small disagreement.
If your girlfriend constantly threatens to leave you when you have even the smallest of disagreements, it is a big red flag.
This often comes down to insecurity on her part. It is something that cannot be left unaddressed.
Particularly if you are in a long-term relationship, you can’t be dealing with emotional stress or such threats.
As with most of these signs, communicate first. If the situation continues, it may be a good idea to seriously consider leaving, no matter how painful that may sound.
13 She is not supportive of your goals and dreams.
Every person has their own dreams. However, if your girlfriend is not supportive of you achieving your goals and dreams, it will inevitably cause serious stress on your relationship.
A relationship should be a place where you feel free to pursue your goals and share your hopes and ideas with the person that you love.
If she doesn’t support you, you may want to reconsider if she is the one for you.
14 She is overly controlling.
A relationship should be comfortable and secure.
If your girlfriend is making you feel like your decisions don’t matter and she constantly takes over decision-making, it’s a bad sign.
Like some others on this list, the desire to control everything often stems from insecurity or could be a personality trait.
The desire to have influence and be heard is normal. Being overly controlling and making all decisions is not.
You know what to do.
15 You don’t feel happy anymore (and haven’t for a long time).
Look, I could rattle on all day with smaller signs but the most important of these signs is that you don’t feel happy anymore.
If you don’t feel happy in your relationship, something’s gotta change.
Whether you’re in a casual fling or have been dating your girlfriend for years, you need to be honest with yourself.
It may be you, or it may your girlfriend but if you haven’t felt happy in your relationship for a long time, you need to address the issue and in the end that may mean leaving.
Of course, time comes into play here too. You can’t always be blissfully happy but you shouldn’t be miserable for long periods of time.
If you are unhappy in a recent casual relationship, it’s probably time to call it quits.
If you are in feeling miserable in a long-term relationship or even marriage that you previously were happy with, you may want to be more considered and work hard to resolve the issue. It will likely take time. You may even want to look to a professional counselor.
If this doesn’t work, and things don’t improve, it may be best for you to be apart.
…that’s it for today fellas!
As with all our posts, I hope you found this article useful. As mentioned in the introduction, these are signs that we and those around us have experienced but there are many more for sure.
If you know of any other signs that you think might be helpful for readers here, we’d love to hear them in the comments below.